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teetee - Oct 22, 2007 12:53 pm (#229 Total: 258)

Mum to 32 weeker and 27 weeker

Boomboom, i know how you feel. had a bad day today with the kids and had to pick up a letter from doctor confirming our daughter has CP to give to another specialist doctor. It's days like this that we both think what are we doing planning to have another one. But then why should we be deprived of another child when my friends are having 3. Going to a tea leaf reader next week (for a laugh). She has told me twice that I will have 3 kids and the third will be full term! She also told my MIL that my son would be born two months early and he was. Won't base our decision on her obviously though.

We are now saying that if I am pregnant this month great and if not maybe we will stop trying. I know we will probably reverse this decision if not pregnant though. There's no easy answer. We have been through so much with our first two I feel we deserve a full term child. Know it doesn't work like that.....

Teetee

boomboom baby - Oct 22, 2007 1:32 pm (#230 Total: 258)

mother to 26 weeker.....http://mishae.zenfolio.com/f95133019

I need your tea leaf reader!!

Sorry to hear about your day but I know you'll feel better soon. Those sweet angels always make it worth it. It's such a personal thing, this decision. My decision is now changing by the hour.......I'll let you know. I sincerely hope members of this Share family will not be upset if I dont decide to keep the baby.

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Jage (Oct 22, 2007 3:09 pm)

Jage - Oct 22, 2007 3:09 pm (#231 Total: 258)

Replying to: boomboom baby (Oct 22, 2007 1:32 pm)

I need your tea leaf reader!! :grin: Sorry to hear about your day but I know you'll feel better...

Re: Previous Premature Birth

Babyboom and Teetee,

I can totally relate with both of you. I just had a consultation/blood work done at my regular OB (not my high risk doctor) because we FINALLY decided to move forward on having another child after a 30 weeker. I was pregnant with her the month after our wedding. We've now been trying for 9 months with nothing. The emotional ups and downs are terrible. Every month I am anxious to find out whether or not I'm pregnant. When I think I am, I panic. Can I do it again? What if we don't make it to 30 weeks this time? How can I do this to another child and what if the results are not as positive? How can I take time away from my 2 1/2 year old to possibly be on bedrest for the long haul? THEN, when it's negative, I'm crushed. I sometimes feel like my emotions have gotten the better of me. Now that we are not being successful getting pregnant, I start to wonder if someone, up there, is trying to tell us something. Maybe my body just wasn't meant to carry a baby. My doctor is suggesting we try Clomed (sp?) to regulate my cycles. I don't know what to think/feel/do.... I need a tea leaf reader too! Keep me posted on how you are doing and good luck! Jen

Peasinapod - Oct 22, 2007 6:28 pm (#232 Total: 258)

Momma of Sky - now 3 (32 weeker) and Will - 2 years old! (37 weeks)

Well, we've made the decision but aren't trying yet. We're going to wait at least a year and a half before trying again. Bedrest was tough with a baby under two. However, we feel the same way as you all...what are we thinking?! But, as you all mentioned I want the next baby as much as I wanted the first two and luckily things have turned out well despite rough beginnings.

Good luck in getting pregnant!

Kristyn

teetee - Oct 24, 2007 12:52 pm (#233 Total: 258)

Mum to 32 weeker and 27 weeker

Boomboom, it's a really personal decision and only you can decide. Don't worry what others think. Same way if I get pregnant I am going to have to ignore looks and comments from people who know I have had two premmie kids. Ireland is a bit behind when it comes to terminations as well so not really an issue here as much although I know people do travel to the UK.

Jen I know how you feel. Will find out in about a week if pregnant. If I am I will be terrified and if not I will prob be really upset. Us women are very complicated!!! On good days (when kids are good and I'm in good mood) it feels like a great idea but on bad days I think how can we add another child to the equation. I just wish someone could tell me what to do. Going to tea leaf reader on Sat. Will let you all know how I get on for the laugh. I remember years ago my sister being worried and saying to my Mum that she hoped I wouldn't follow the advice of a tea reader! I did question tea lady at the time and asked her would the third child be an adoption cos we were thinking of it and said oh no, it will be your child!

I think deep down I always knew we would try again. We still have cot, toys and car seats etc in attic when we could have given them away.

Maybe tea lady will be able to tell if I'm pregnant or not and I'll save the cost of a pregnancy test.....

boomboom baby - Oct 24, 2007 1:55 pm (#234 Total: 258)

mother to 26 weeker.....http://mishae.zenfolio.com/f95133019

"On good days (when kids are good and I'm in good mood) it feels like a great idea but on bad days I think how can we add another child to the equation. I just wish someone could tell me what to do." ....yes indeed...well actually my close friends are telling me what to do.....have the baby! ....still pendulum decision making however......
I hope you get the positive result you are hoping for. Yes us women are complicated! What a dull place it would be without us!

teetee - Oct 28, 2007 12:36 pm (#235 Total: 258)

Mum to 32 weeker and 27 weeker

Well, went to tea leaf reader on Sat. Now I have to say I take it all with a pinch of salt. We reckon she is very adept at reading people's faces and is also good at turning things around e.g Tea Lady "Your husband is thinking of changing jobs" Me, "No he's not" Tea Lady " Well I mean he thinks about other jobs sometimes" Like hello who doesn't think of other jobs at some stage or other. Anyway without any prompts she said my family wasn't finished and I would have a little girl with dark hair and who would be 8 months gestation. This was only after I informed her my other two were born early so I think she was guessing! Also i'm blond and my husband is red so not sure about the dark hair either! Will find out in next few days if anything happening this month.

Boom boom, any closer to a decision. Your friends obviously feel you will be able to cope if they are advising you to have the baby?

Teetee

sparky_amy - Oct 28, 2007 2:20 pm (#236 Total: 258)

#3 mom of a 36 weeker and one in the oven (31 weeks)

I can empathize with the whole notion of having a 3rd. Ahh what to do. I often wonder will I continue to have pre-term labor and bed rest and drugs with each kid? Will it get earlier and earlier everytime? What a tough decision. I am definitely on the fence. Let us know what you decide

reddy831 - Nov 6, 2007 12:11 pm (#237 Total: 258)

mom of 1 yr old and 2 in oven

Anyone gotten the progesterone shots have it with twins??? I am 17 wks.. dr wants me to get shots b/c my 1yr old was "34"wks (i think i was off by month and he was 2 wks early not 6).

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moderator (Nov 7, 2007 7:37 am)

moderator - Nov 7, 2007 7:37 am (#238 Total: 258)

Replying to: reddy831 (Nov 6, 2007 12:11 pm)

mom of 1 yr old and 2 in oven: Anyone gotten the progesterone shots have it with twins??? I...

For reddy831

Welcome to Share! At this time, the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) does not recommend progesterone shots for women carrying twins. An article on the March of Dimes Web site provides a summary of the ACOG guidelines http://www.marchofdimes.com/prematurity/21236_19093.asp

A large study published this summer found that the drug was not beneficial for women carrying twins. Here's the March of Dimes press release that describes the study:
http://www.marchofdimes.com/aboutus/22663_26080.asp

The use of progesterone to prevent preterm birth is fairly new; we still have a lot to learn about which pregnant women benefit from it the most.

For your information, a woman carrying twins is at increased risk of preterm labor. So that is probably why your doctor is talking about progesterone with you. More than 50% of twins are born early. So you will want to know the signs and symptoms of preterm labor and what to do if you have them. Here's a link: http://www.marchofdimes.com/prematurity/21239_5809.asp

I hope this is helpful. And please let us know if you have further questions.

Pam
Education Dept.
March of Dimes

BriansMommy2 - Dec 27, 2007 8:27 am (#239 Total: 258)

Trying Again

Hi My name is Maggie I have a 2yr old son that was born at 30 weeks.. We had our ups and downs but we made it.. He is a healthy 2yr old!!!!! Me and my husband want to have a sibling for brian but we are afraid that our second one will be premature also. What to do?

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Peasinapod (Dec 27, 2007 3:17 pm)

Peasinapod - Dec 27, 2007 3:17 pm (#240 Total: 258)

Momma of Sky - now 3 (32 weeker) and Will - 2 years old! (37 weeks)

Replying to: BriansMommy2 (Dec 27, 2007 8:27 am)

Trying Again: Hi My name is Maggie I have a 2yr old son that was born at 30 weeks.. We...

Re: Trying Again

Briansmommy,

It is such a tough decision, but one that you'll hopefully find peace in when you do decide.

My daughter was a 32 weeker and healthy when she was born. Luckily, we had a short stay in the NICU, but that didn't make our decision any easier to try again. We finally did and we were both so scared, but I knew things to watch for and I didn't hesitate to call my OB at the slightest thing...which probably saved my son's life. My biggest piece of advice is have a doc you trust and that trusts you...it can make all the difference in the world.

Good luck in your decision.

Kristyn

ddrabbit96 - Dec 29, 2007 10:32 am (#241 Total: 258)

Dawn D Mother of 1 premiee

Re: Trying Again

I know exactly how you are feeling! I had a 32 weeker 3 yrs ago on x-mass! Surprise! I was terrified to get pregnant again! I just didn't want to put another child threw that! Nor myself and my husband! But then I just took the plung! With the constant thought of what we all went throughI became pregnant again! I am know 20 weeks along and I am not going to lie scared! I am seeing a peri and my ob. It has been a long road so far I am on bedrest I am also doing weekly 17p shots! The baby is doing wonderful! Its a boy! My advise to you is prepare yourself! Know that it could happen again. Know that for 9 months your life might have to change! But know in your mind that it is only 9 months and the end product is the most wonderful gift! ! Plus your OB know can watch you better and take percaustions to insure it to not happen again! That is how I am trying to look at things right know! Try not to be scared! I wish you the best of luck! You can get trough anything just look back at what you over came with your Son! You are know a strongerand more knowlegeable peron for that!
Dawn

BriansMommy2 - Jan 2, 2008 7:29 am (#242 Total: 258)

Trying Again

Hi my name is Maggie!

I had my son at 30 weeks me and my husband went through our ups and down but we made it.. Brian is a 2 year old healthy boy. Me and my husband want to have a second baby and the last we want brian to have a sibling but we are also worry that our second child will be born premature!!!!! We have decided that we will try again and just pray that this time around things will turn out ok... :

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Jage (Jan 4, 2008 5:02 pm)

Aileigh - Jan 3, 2008 8:42 am (#243 Total: 258)

Proud Mom to Ryan 33 Weeker Now 2 and Second Baby Due 10/31/08!

Hi Everyone!

I can't believe I am about to post in this folder, but here goes....
Long story short, Ryan was born at 33 weeks due to an infection that went undetected. I was re-admitted to the hospital the day before he was discharged from the NICU. I ran a fever of 105.6 and nearly lost my life. When he was 2 months old, they found a blood clot next to my heart. The peri said that she thinks it was all due to the infection that caused his preterm birth. So now Ryan is almost 2. I am scared to death to try again, but I want another baby. Is the time right? Who knows.... but I know that if I let more time pass by, I will work myself into a frenzy and I won't have another one.

I do know that my second pregnancy will involve weekly peri visits, daily blood thinner shots, weekly P17 shots, diabetic diet and blood sugar monitoring, time off work to go to the doctor, tests and monitoring for infection, and (hopefully) lots of luck.

Hugs and Love,
Aimee

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Jage - Jan 4, 2008 5:02 pm (#244 Total: 258)

Replying to: BriansMommy2 (Jan 2, 2008 7:29 am)

Trying Again: Hi my name is Maggie! I had my son at 30 weeks me and my husband went through...

Re: Trying Again

I understand completely where you both stand. I had my daughter 2 1/2 years ago at 30 weeks. I just found out I am pregnant. We actually started trying about 9 months ago. This worked out because I was so scared in the beginning. As time passed, I began to want it so much more.

I started doing acupuncture a couple weeks ago. For a few reasons actually. The first was to start balancing my system so we could get pregnant. I am planning to continue. There is some research out there that it helps with neasea. What I find, is that it seems to be helping with anxiety most of all. It's just helping me try to stay calm. Don't get me wrong. I am terrified of what's to come! My acupuncturist focuses on women's health and says she will even try to help with the preterm labor issue. Has anyone else out there used acupuncture? March of Dimes staff - is there any info. you have about this?

I too will be seeing a peri throughout and having p17 shots. I am hoping that the knowledge I have gained since the last pregnancy will help. I am anxiously awaiting my first ultrasound in 3 weeks. I think each milestone we can get through without mishap will be a weight off my shoulders! Last time, I was bleeding before that first visit. I am constantly checking for blood! I just don't think it's going to be easy for any of us. But we have to remember WHY we are willing to go through it all. The end result. So, it will be worth it.

Good luck to all of you. Please send a little prayer my way, every little one counts! Jen

Peasinapod - Jan 5, 2008 4:13 pm (#245 Total: 258)

Momma of Sky - now 3 (32 weeker) and Will - 2 years old! (37 weeks)

I've posted here a million times and now I can say I'm here to "think aloud" about having number 3. My daughter was a 32 weeker and luckily very healthy and came home in 12 days. We had some preemie issues, but all cleared up by about 12 months. My son was full term, but I had to be on a couch for 6 months (24 1/2 weeks) after we learned I was funneling/dilated at 14 weeks...not fun and very scary. I think I've blocked out the fear I had experienced before getting pregnant with number 2...I was petrified, but finally I threw that fear out the window. I'm so happy we did, but I really want a 3rd baby. My DH does, too. It's hard to know what to do...we're not ready right now (3 1/2 and 1 1/2 are hard ages for bedrest) however, we've talked about later this year or early next year...then I start to freak out!

I think the 60 lbs I gained and the 6 months of couch time freak me out the most since he was full term I tend to have positive feelings that we'll be lucky enough for that to happen again.

Thinking of you while you try to decide!
Kris

teetee - Jan 9, 2008 1:38 pm (#246 Total: 258)

Mum to 32 weeker and 27 weeker

Hi girls

I had a premmie DS at 32 weeks and then a DD at 27 weeks and......am now 10 weeks pregnant. This was a massive decision. My DD is 4 and we had always said never again but during the summer we decided to go to see an Obs and have a chat. If he was negative about our chances of going full term we had at least tried. But he was positive and we decided after much deliberation to go ahead.

My first was an abruption and the second my waters broke at 26 weeks. I know I am going to be so nervous esp once I get to 24 weeks as the baby will be viable then. Am nervous also about telling friends. We have a scan at 12 weeks so can't wait until then.

I live in Ireland and it all seems to be very different here. Doc doesn't advise bed rest or the injections as he says my cervix isn't weak.

So I totally understand all of you who are nervous going again. Can't really believe that I am pregnant after having two premmie births but deep down I always knew we would try again!

Teetee

marie25 - Feb 6, 2008 8:47 am (#247 Total: 258)

I had preterm labor and birth at 24 weeks with my first pregnancy. also came to er already dilated. Did not have cerclage with my second pregnancy and went to 39 wks. I was on progesterone shots and brethine.
good luck

ejmonstermommy - Mar 29, 2008 5:57 pm (#248 Total: 258)

Re: Previous Premature Birth

I was wondering since we are talking of trying again soon, did your doctor automatically put you on progesterone shots and brethine or did they see how the pregnancy was progressing?

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2 here 2 in Heaven (Apr 14, 2008 12:16 pm)

2 here 2 in Heaven - Apr 14, 2008 12:16 pm (#249 Total: 258)

Join us May 8 for a Mother's Day LIVE CHAT. 3pm ET, 2pm CT. Surviving 26 week triplet...2 angels, & a 36 week singleton.

Replying to: ejmonstermommy (Mar 29, 2008 5:57 pm)

Re: Previous Premature Birth: I was wondering since we are talking of trying again soon, did your doctor automatically put...

Re: Previous Premature Birth

Not all women are good candidates for progesterone, but you can talk to your doctor about this. For example, women carrying multiple babies (research has shown) receive no benefit from them.

Shonda

Iara - Apr 17, 2008 8:25 am (#250 Total: 258)

I had HELLP with my first and now pregnant again!!!

Hello.....so glad to find a site where I can discuss what I went through with others who can relate. I had HELLP syndrome when I was 30 weeks with my daughter Daniela. I was in a very bad state. Everyone thought that it was gastritis. I recall complaining about abdominal pain and I was going into shock. When they realized the problem at the hospital....they rushed me into the ER for a c-section.....I had blood platelets transfusions, steriods, high blood pressure (210/110)....you name it......It was the scariest moment in my life. My Daughter weighed 2 pounds and 9 1/2 onz and was in the NICU for 46 days......she had a lot of complications......God blessed me with her.....she is healthy and no complications now....I went through the same trauma.....not knowing if I should have another baby in the near future....since this could happen again...or....maybe it won't the next time......guess what.... I am pregnant with my second child.....I am already 28 weeks and feel good so far......no high blood pressure to date .....Doc. is watching me and I am trying my hardest to stay strong....sometimes I get scared and cry....I guess its normal ...but I have faith in God......He keeps me strong.....I have heard of my husband's friend who had Hellp the first time and then had 4 more without complications.....Stay strong and follow your instinct and heart.....many blessings to all

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2 here 2 in Heaven (Apr 17, 2008 10:01 am)

2 here 2 in Heaven - Apr 17, 2008 10:01 am (#251 Total: 258)

Join us May 8 for a Mother's Day LIVE CHAT. 3pm ET, 2pm CT. Surviving 26 week triplet...2 angels, & a 36 week singleton.

Replying to: Iara (Apr 17, 2008 8:25 am)

I had HELLP with my first and now pregnant again!!!: Hello.....so glad to find a site where I can discuss...

Re: I had HELLP with my first and now pregnant again!!!

Glad to hear your daughter is doing well today. Best of luck with your current pregancy!

Shonda

Jage - Apr 18, 2008 5:05 am (#252 Total: 258)

Iara,

I know what you mean about feeling scared. I'll be 20 weeks on Monday with my second after preterm labor at 26 weeks (gave birth at 30 after 4 long weeks in the hospital). One day, I feel confident because all is going so well this time. The next minute I am petrified that something is going to go wrong. I guess it goes with the territory!

Stay strong! Jen

emma barrett - May 6, 2008 12:53 am (#253 Total: 258)

ruptured membranes at 26 weeks, now 13 weeks and hopeful!!!

Has anyone any advice about second pregnancy after PROM?? Had 27 weeker who is now wonderfully healthy and nearly 2 years. We just got the courage to try again. It seems progesterone is recommended although they seem unsure if it is really effective with PROM. Plus anyone else with previous rupture I would love to hear your story on your second pregnancy.
thanks emma

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Jage (May 6, 2008 4:43 pm)

Peasinapod - May 6, 2008 2:23 pm (#254 Total: 258)

Momma of Sky - now 3 (32 weeker) and Will - 2 years old! (37 weeks)

I don't have any advice with PROM, but I wanted to wish you both the best of luck. I had a preemie for what appeared to be unknown reasons at 32 weeks and was so scared in my second pregnancy. Luckily we realized that I have an incompetent cervix in time and after lying on the couch for 6 months we had a little boy. He's now 2 and I'm pregnant with number 3 (almost 19 weeks). I'm still worried, but things seem to be going well. I have a cerclage so that gives me some peace of mind. It's scary being pregnant again, but good things do happen! I wish you both the best!

Jage - May 6, 2008 4:43 pm (#255 Total: 258)

Replying to: emma barrett (May 6, 2008 12:53 am)

ruptured membranes at 26 weeks, now 13 weeks and hopeful!!!: Has anyone any advice about second pregnancy after PROM?? ...

Re: ruptured membranes at 26 weeks, now 13 weeks and hopeful!!!

I did not have PROM, but my very good friend did. She was put on the shots, starting at 16 weeks, because they felt it couldn't hurt. Even though there was no proof it helped with PROM. She just went into labor the other day at 39 weeks!

Good luck! Jen

rosiegee - May 15, 2008 5:08 am (#256 Total: 258)

Hi Emma

I'm 10 weeks pregnant after 2 PROM babies, Ruby who was born at 31 weeks after PROM at 28 weeks, and is now 4, and Sonny, who we lost earlier this year after PROM (although different form Ruby's as it was caused by a large retroplacental clot) at 21 weeks.

I'm terrified that this is going to happen again and would love a "Pregnant after PROM' buddy if anyone's interested!

Rose

Ixora - May 15, 2008 7:37 am (#257 Total: 258)

Petrified of trying again

Hi, i have been a regular visitor to this site but only just registered. I had my son at 30wks & 2 days and he is now a healthy 2 year old. (I am a little worried about his speech though). I want to have another baby and have read a lot about the 17P shots. I however dont think they are offered in my country (Nigeria) and was wondering what to do. Can i order the drugs through a doctor from here and how can i do that? Do you think i could get the same results if the drugs are administered from here? If i do have to come over to the US which hospital/doctor could anyone recommend? I have so many questions. Please help. I want another baby but i dont want to go what i did previously.

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Jackie G (May 15, 2008 7:25 pm)

Jackie G - May 15, 2008 7:25 pm (#258 Total: 258)

Mom to Kimberly (25 wkr, now 4 yrs!) & Matthew (38.5 wkr, now 2 yrs!)

Replying to: Ixora (May 15, 2008 7:37 am)

Petrified of trying again: Hi, i have been a regular visitor to this site but only just registered. I had...

Re: Petrified of trying again

As far as I know, the 17P shots are only available with a doctors prescription and they have to be made by a special compounding pharmacy that can mix it themselves. I know the pharmacy I used did ship to people but whether or not they would send it to someone outside the USA, I don't know. The pharmacy was called "University Compounding Pharmacy" and the phone number is (248) 267-5002.
I would talk to your OB and see if it is something he/she would be willing to support. Also, ask to be refered to a perinatologist who deals with high risk pregnancies. They would be the one most likely to know how to help you get 17P if they support it's use.

As far as a doctor recommendation - I guess it would depend on where in the USA you were looking! I live near Detroit, Michigan and I think the Ob practice I see is great. My main Ob is about to retire but the other people in the practice are great too. But somehow I don't think Detroit is usually the first place people want to go when they come to the US!

Good Luck!
-Jackie

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