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I need some advice...Lina Young - 09:11am May 5, 2008 ESTMommy to Ethan - 25 w 6 days (now 3 1/2) and expecting baby #2 in October 2008I am almost 16 weeks pregnant and I was not supposed to go on bedrest until June, but I am currently on bedrest. Here is the background...I had a cerclage placed at 14 weeks, and they found that my cervix was soft and open, so I was told to go on bedrest for 2 weeks. I went to my OB last week (15 weeks) and he agreed and told me that I may be able to go back to work, if things stay calm over the next week. I will remain on bedrest at least until my next appointment on May 13. I start progesterone this week. I am a teacher and I was only supposed to be gone for 4 days and now I have been gone for 10 days. I had planned to finish out the year, so I did not have things ready for being gone so early. The doctor has said I may be able to go back to work next week, but he said we could make the decision then. It almost sounds as if I will be making the decision with a little help from him. I have school until June 6. I really would only have 7 actual teaching days, then my kids go to camp the week of Memorial Day, which I am not going to. And then we have end of year activities for the last 4 days of school. Then I have a workday and I'm done. I really don't know what to do. If he leaves it to me I don't know what to decide. I want to go back and at least close things up, but I don't want to just come back for a day or two and then leave again. I just want to know what you guys think. You guys always give such great advice, so I would appreciate anything you can tell me. Thanks, Lina
makcalla
- May 7, 2008 9:02 am
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Here is my advice, for what it's worth.
I am not a teacher, so I really don't know what the stresses are or what a usual end-of-school-year is like. Even though you won't be teaching for long, I imagine you will still be standing, moving, bending, and generally placing stress on both you and that stitch right up until the last day of school.
I went on bedrest at 16 weeks with my last pregnancy. I did not come off bedrest until I gave birth at 27 weeks. I had an emergency cerclage, rather than a preventive one, and I know that makes a difference. Still....
When I discussed a next pregnancy with my doctor, she told me that they would do a cerclage as a prevention, but that I should expect to be on bedrest from that point on. It was possible I could go back to work, but don't plan on it.....
I would recommend the same thing to you. It is possible the doctor will lift the bedrest restriction at your next appointment. But I wouldn't count on it. And I can't imagine he would suggest placing yourself back in that stressful situation.
Many prayers for a boring, full nine months.
Mary
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AJsMaMa
- May 7, 2008 6:28 pm
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Hi Lina, I just thought I would chime in. I am also not a teacher, so of course I don't know what the stress and physical demands are like, but if it was me I would stay in bed. I spent 5 weeks on bed rest in the hospital before I delivered my son at 29 weeks. They were the most boring and agonizing 5 weeks in my life and of course 5 weeks is nothing compared to the amount of time you will be on bedrest. But, I just don't think I would risk it. Of course, you know your body and what it is telling you better than anyone else, so I guess my real advice is to listen to your body and do what you think is best. Is there any work you can do from home? If the reason you want to go back is to finish the year with your students would it be possible to go into the classroom in a wheelchair and say hello? Could someone videotape a message from you to your students? Could who ever is filling in for you have the kids make some cards for you and take some pictures of their last days so you don't miss out altogether? All that said, I had a cerclage with my second pregnancy and was not put on bedrest and I made it full term and even had to be induced because the little booger was getting too big  I hope you are able to decide what to do and I wish you the best of luck with your pregnancy. Keep us posted! Roxanne
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Lina Young
- May 8, 2008 8:16 am
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Mommy to Ethan - 25 w 6 days (now 3 1/2) and expecting baby #2 in October 2008 |
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Thank you ladies! It is such a difficult decision to make. I made some phone calls to my principal and the human resources director to find out what my options were, because I was starting to lean towards not going back. But, two things came out of that. I have the risk of losing my medical insurance in the fall and my son that was born at 25 weeks is on my insurance and he really needs med insurance in the fall and winter when he usually gets the most sick. I also realized that the lack of sick days that I have is adding up and I will have to go unpaid for some of the time. It has been suggested that I could come back 1/2 days in the afternoon, which would only make it 3 1/2 hours for me to be there. I'm really not sure what to do. I want to ask my doctor point blank and say "what should I do?" I really don't want it left up to me because I am feeling so mixed about it. I know that me laying down has helped to keep the problems away, so it worries me that I could go into labor early if I try to work. I am just getting frustrated with the whole thing. I'm not even sure if the doctor would let me go back in the fall to start the year off. Ahhhh...this decision is really not easy. I really appreciate what you have both said, because it really does make me think about what to do.
Thanks, Lina
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