how to survive?

I am so sorry you are going through this right now. Bedrest is the BEST thing to make a miscarry stop. When I was 12 weeks pregnant with my daughter I had a subcorianic supporation, which means my placenta tore very badly. My Dr. was 90% sure I was going to miscarry. HE told me to go home, stay on bedrest, drink lots of water, make sure to take your iron, and stay in bed. For two weeks I bled, very bright red, still continued with bedrest, third week it turned brown, and fourth week it was gone. Baby was great and I was still pregnant. Now I was alot further along than you are now, but pray, and stay in bed. Your body needs to rest to see if it can fix the problem, you have to be on bedrest so your body can work to fix it. It may not work bc you are only 5 weeks along, but I would say that is your best shot. STAY IN BED!!!!

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Please know that we're here any time you need to talk.

Tracy

too have had misscarrages i had 5 after my first son was born and 9 1/2 yrs later i finally had my second child then i have also had 2 girls but yes its hard and u think its ur fault but its not it was very hard and i got to the point after the second misscarrage that i wouldnt even let anyone know i was pregnant but i still ended up misscarring that one also the fifth one i had to terminate cause it was twins in my tubes so i couldnt carrie them i found out at 6 weeks and the dr told me that there was nothing that they could do to make it to were i could carrie them then after that i found out they could have went in and relocated them to were i could carrie them i thought i would never be able to get pregnant but i did my second son was born 23 days early and he weighed 5 lbs 11 oz he went home after 2 days then i had my 1st girl about a year laterand she was born at 28 weeks 4 days she spent 7 weeks in the nicu and then i had my baby she was born at 27weeks and 6 days she spent exactally 8 weeks in the hospital i hope this helps u out

I have not had a miscarriage but I too have lost a child. The experience is emotionally powerful. Please know ... that as bad as this hurts ... you will survive. There will be a point when you look back and wonder how ... But when you also realize you did.

Take Care of yourself. Please do not be afraid to ask for what you need from your doctor, family, and friends. Be gentle with yourself.

Thinking about you. So sorry you are experiencing this loss.

Melissa

I delivered my son Monday Dec 8, 2008. He was 23wks and 6days He survied for 4days then he passed and I feel like my life is over. This is so unfair. This a pain that no Mother should have to endure. I always considered myself to be a strong person, but I honestly don't think I'm strong enough for this.

People are telling me that things will get better and I want to beleive it I need to beleive it, but I just don't see it happening. I know that GOD had other plans for my little ANGEL, but I'm so angry because he should be here with his MOTHER. Until I can understand the reason that my son was taken from me, I am mad at the world.

I'm trying so hard to comprehend what happend 2days ago, and it's still a blur. One minute he's fine and the next he's not. I could not watch my baby suffer and the decision we made for our son was the best. I know that, but I feel like maybe I did something wrong and somehow it's my fault. Is this normal? My boyfriend tells me that it's not my fault it was nothing I could have done, but as a mother I'm suppose to protect my child.

I have such a hole in my heart, a void in my life I don't know what to do. My boyfriend has been my ROCK through out this tradgedy. I wanted another child so bad I sometimes blame myself for obsessing too much. I know that no child will EVER replace my little ANGEL, but is it normal for me to want to try and conceive again? I'm so confused, but hopefull that I will be able to be a mother again.

GOD please give me strenght to get through this.

Kisha

Kisha,

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. My daughter passed away in June and I shared, and still share, so many of the same feelings and thoughts. My heart aches for you knowing how much you are hurting right now.

It's been almost six months since I said goodbye to my daughter. Things get different. I promise you that there will be a day where your smiles thinking about your son out weigh the tears. That day won't mean that you miss him any less, it will mean that you have found a way to live with his memory at your side bringing you joy.

I'm so thankful that you have found Share. Sadly, there are many mommies here who share this journey. Walking it with others brings comfort.

I hope you will continue to share about your son here.
Take it one moment at a time.
Lauren

Lauren,

Thank you for your comforting words I really needed that. It's just so hard to deal with, but thanks to this site I found a place where I can express my feelings with other people that know how I feel, and have been through what I'm going through.

Thank you again. By the way that is a Beautiful name you gave to your daughter.

Kisha

Kisha,

Thank you. What's your son's name? Share is definitely a place you can express your journey. I know I wouldn't be where I am now with out all the wonderful mommies here. I hope you will continue to visit. We'll always be here.

Lauren

Lauren,

My son's name is Shilo he was my gift from GOD.

Kisha

To Kisha and Lauren,
I am sorry for your two children's passing. I also have lost a son. It has been six years. Not something I would wish for any parent. We are to die first and our children are suppose to be burying us. I felt like my world was over. I then woke up and said I need to make sure Kristofer did not die without being alive in my heart. I know that my son is taken care of, due to having my grandfather dying ten months before my son's death. Kisha, your son was born on my husband's birthday. I have daughter now that I knew my son sent to me. I had names picked for a boy and a girl just in case I was going to have a son, if she was a boy she would have been named Matthew Spencer ( also meaning a gift from God). My daughter just celebrated her 5th birthday on Dec. 11. On my son's birthday (dec 5) we bought a cake to honor him and my daughter was telling everyone in the store that "its Christopher Robbins birthday and we got him a cake" IT was hard to let her know what he was because he is not here. Its hard dont get me wrong losing him but I honor him every day going by his ashes and giving him a kiss to just looking at his pictures and thinking of him and who he would look like It does get easier, but slowly. We all grieve in our own ways but we can all get there together. My son was born at 24 weeks and was one pound five ounces. I honestly believe my son knew my daughter was coming to do something in the world and I had to endure his loss to know what I was going to have to fight for when she came. My daughter was born at 27 weeks and was one pound four ounces. She only had 10% chance of living. I was in the hospital a month before she was born. I also had my gall bladder taken out with her and cerclage implace to keep her in me. She came home on oxygen and apnea monitor. Then got a gtube at six months. When she was 15 months she got RSV where my daughter was in a respitatory code for four and a half hours. We really thought she was going to loss. I knew if I lost her I would lose myself. She got a tracheostomy and got it out a year ago. SHe so far this year (knock on wood) is doing well. I know that my son did not die in vane he died so his sister can come into the world and make something of herself. I know he will be here every day being her angel. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Dee

Dee,

Wow. Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry for the loss of your son, but happy you were blessed again with a daughter. I've said this before and I will say it again, I'm so thankful that there is place where I can come to share my story. I have gotten words of encouragement since I've told my story and that means so much to me. You ladies are so strong, reading your stories give me not only strength, but hope that things will get better.

Kisha

I'm sorry your going through this. I know it's not fair but we always have to think positive. I had a miscarriage when I was about 3-4 wks along. I chose to have a DNC when they gave me the news that my sac had collapsed. We waited a few months and tried again, unfortually we lost her at 8 months along. I had to deliver my daughter. she was a still birth. It's hard but i will not give up. God has reason for everything and that's what I've put in my head. Maybe one day god will let us know why he chooses his angels and why he does what he does. Don't give up. If the doctors haven't said you can't have any more children than just keep trying theres no reason you can't. Keep in touch and let me know what happens. Keep trying.

I know exactly what you are going through. For some reason my cervix is incompetent. I go into labor really early before my 5 year old daughter I lost a baby at 5 weeks, then when I got pregnant with my daughter I was going to have twins I lost her twin and she survived I had her at 32 weeks. 1 year later I decided to try agian to give her a sibling well I got pregnant alright lost the first one at 6 weeks, pregnant again lost it at 8 weeks, pregnant again lost it at 16 weeks finally God listened to my prayers pregnant again made to 36 weeks and induced because my blood pressure was high and her pulse was high also, my little one was 9 months when I found out I was pregnant again... This was a real surprise I was not looking for another one but I accepted and was thrilled that God Blessed me a 3rd time little did I know I was in for a big surprise.... At 19 weeks they put a cerclage in because of my stupid cervix but big mistake!!!! 2 weeks later my water broke 42 hours later I delievered my 3rd baby girl Gabriella which she was 21.1 weeks old and she did not make it through the birth canal.... Today, 4 weeks exactly after I lost her.. I am debating or not if I want the tubalagation or not because of my history so don't feel cheated DON'T GIVE UP!!!! GOD IS WITH U, Leave it up him.... God always has a bigger and better plan!!!!

Hi Nikko's mommy,

I know this is hard. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. It was my second pregnancy--my first daughter was born at 33w, and has mild cp. I was scared to death something would go wrong...and was upset with myself, God, everyone that I couldn't carry a baby to term. I was devastated--sad and angry too. I deserved a healthy baby. I felt denied, cheated, wronged.
There was nothing I could have done to prevent or stop my miscarriage. The same goes for you. It might seem hollow now, but perhaps in the future you'll see that. It doesn't mean that you'll stop feeling upset that your expectations for Lilah were stripped.
I lurked around SHARE a long while after my miscarriage. I relied on friends and family. A lot of people I knew ended up telling me their own stories. Even though I wasn't happy that others had to go through what I did...knowing I wasn't alone did help.
I did get pregnant again...about a year afterwards. My second daughter was almost born at 28w, but with a lot of help, she made it to 38.5.
No matter your plan, everyone here at SHARE is here to support you. Give yourself time, and be good to yourself.