how to survive?

Dee,

Wow. Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry for the loss of your son, but happy you were blessed again with a daughter. I've said this before and I will say it again, I'm so thankful that there is place where I can come to share my story. I have gotten words of encouragement since I've told my story and that means so much to me. You ladies are so strong, reading your stories give me not only strength, but hope that things will get better.

Kisha

I'm sorry your going through this. I know it's not fair but we always have to think positive. I had a miscarriage when I was about 3-4 wks along. I chose to have a DNC when they gave me the news that my sac had collapsed. We waited a few months and tried again, unfortually we lost her at 8 months along. I had to deliver my daughter. she was a still birth. It's hard but i will not give up. God has reason for everything and that's what I've put in my head. Maybe one day god will let us know why he chooses his angels and why he does what he does. Don't give up. If the doctors haven't said you can't have any more children than just keep trying theres no reason you can't. Keep in touch and let me know what happens. Keep trying.

I know exactly what you are going through. For some reason my cervix is incompetent. I go into labor really early before my 5 year old daughter I lost a baby at 5 weeks, then when I got pregnant with my daughter I was going to have twins I lost her twin and she survived I had her at 32 weeks. 1 year later I decided to try agian to give her a sibling well I got pregnant alright lost the first one at 6 weeks, pregnant again lost it at 8 weeks, pregnant again lost it at 16 weeks finally God listened to my prayers pregnant again made to 36 weeks and induced because my blood pressure was high and her pulse was high also, my little one was 9 months when I found out I was pregnant again... This was a real surprise I was not looking for another one but I accepted and was thrilled that God Blessed me a 3rd time little did I know I was in for a big surprise.... At 19 weeks they put a cerclage in because of my stupid cervix but big mistake!!!! 2 weeks later my water broke 42 hours later I delievered my 3rd baby girl Gabriella which she was 21.1 weeks old and she did not make it through the birth canal.... Today, 4 weeks exactly after I lost her.. I am debating or not if I want the tubalagation or not because of my history so don't feel cheated DON'T GIVE UP!!!! GOD IS WITH U, Leave it up him.... God always has a bigger and better plan!!!!

Hi Nikko's mommy,

I know this is hard. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. It was my second pregnancy--my first daughter was born at 33w, and has mild cp. I was scared to death something would go wrong...and was upset with myself, God, everyone that I couldn't carry a baby to term. I was devastated--sad and angry too. I deserved a healthy baby. I felt denied, cheated, wronged.
There was nothing I could have done to prevent or stop my miscarriage. The same goes for you. It might seem hollow now, but perhaps in the future you'll see that. It doesn't mean that you'll stop feeling upset that your expectations for Lilah were stripped.
I lurked around SHARE a long while after my miscarriage. I relied on friends and family. A lot of people I knew ended up telling me their own stories. Even though I wasn't happy that others had to go through what I did...knowing I wasn't alone did help.
I did get pregnant again...about a year afterwards. My second daughter was almost born at 28w, but with a lot of help, she made it to 38.5.
No matter your plan, everyone here at SHARE is here to support you. Give yourself time, and be good to yourself.