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Born at 28 weeks...please read, i need opinionsgretchensm0m - 05:07pm Feb 27, 2009 ESTmy second child, a boy, was born on february 11th 2009 at 28 weeks. the story is, i had placenta previa since december and eventually was put on strict bed rest, but it did not stop the bleeding. i was admitted into the hospital the first time for 2 days, one week later i was back for bleeding and stayed a week. four days after that i was admitted for the final time (for bleeding) and stayed for a month. at about 12am on february 11th my water broke at the hospital and i thought "here we go, this is it" but to my surprise my doctor said, lets wait it out, lots of women can have their water break and still go weeks. i wasnt very comfortable with it but i figured that they were the doctors and know what they are talking about. so i go back to sleep to wake up the next morning with a high fever, they said that it is a sign of infection and would have to take the baby that day... but werent really in a hurry. by the time i had gotten my c-section my contractions were less than a minute apart and it was 5:55pm. at first we thought everything would be ok, but at only his 2nd day of life we were informed that my baby boy had e.coli, septicemia, and meningitis. i was devistated, i couldnt understand where all this would come from. he had his ups and downs (mostly downs) and in the end he had become brain dead and we had to let him go. he made it a week. but not only did he have these illnesses, i do too, everything except the meningitis, but i also had an abcess under my c-section and some blood clots in my abdomen that are infected. i am still super sick. this is the hardest thing i have ever had to go through and i cant help but think that this all could have prevented had they had just taken him when my water broke. any thoughts?
crazylee53
- Feb 28, 2009 6:46 am
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infections suck!
Hi, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't help with the any medical answers, but I can tell you that infections suck. I lost my twin girls to an infection on Dec 28. The doctors dont't even know what kind of infection it was. It wasn't any of the usuals. I don't understand how in this day and age the doctors can know so little. My brain cannot stop thinking about the what if's and the should'ves. My thoughts and prayers are with you and just remember you're not alone!
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spgirlie
- Feb 28, 2009 7:12 am
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am soooo sorry for your loss am no doctor but i think they should have taken your baby out if the mothers body is 'sick' the baby does get affected was also sick .. and told to wait .. was assured it wouldnt affect the baby
yet when he was born at 25weeks, he was well below the weight
he should have been at that gestational age, 500grams
so he was struggling! havent had much 'luck' with doctors listen to yourself and your body ..
god bless you
and be strong
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Donnavie
- Feb 28, 2009 7:58 am
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Hi. First off let me tell you how sorry I am for your loss. No one should have to go through this and I can't imagine the mental and physical pain you are going through.
What I can tell you through my experience is that it just depends on the dr. on how they treat your situation. It is true that if your water breaks and you are pre-term you can still stay pregnant for quite a few weeks with iv fluids. The fluid will regenerate in days and if you are not in active labor (having contractions) and the baby is not showing any signs of distress then it is generally safe to wait it out. Of course once your water breaks you are at risk for infection but they should have been giving you antibiotics coupled with the iv fluids to help prevent that.
Were you bleeding when your water broke? How were you feeling prior to that? How long between when they said you had an infection and your c-section? I think that if you feel like things weren't handled right then you should talk to the dr. If that doesn't help and you feel like you didn't receive the treatment you were suppose to then you should change practices.
I'm sorry you are so sick and I hope you get better. I hope your heart can start healing and you get some answers.
Take care,
Donnavie
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gretchensm0m (Feb 28, 2009 8:05 pm)
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Angel Love
- Feb 28, 2009 1:36 pm
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I know how hard it is to say goodbye to your child. I know it's hard to think of how the situation could've been so different. I've tried that myself.... My situation is that I had a "leak" and was on hospital bedrest for 6 weeks. When the leak was there, I was given antibiotics. It allowed my pregnancy to progress from 20 weeks to 27 weeks, before I too developed an infection. The infection coupled with early arrival took one of my twins, but the other is doing well. Please know that we're here any time you need to talk. Tracy 
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gretchensm0m
- Feb 28, 2009 8:05 pm
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Replying to:
Donnavie (Feb 28, 2009 7:58 am)
Hi. First off let me tell you how sorry I am for your loss. No one should have...
Re: Born at 28 weeks...please read, i need opinions
first of all, i want to thank everyone for their kind words, it wont take the pain away but its nice to hear. i was bleeding when my water broke, it actually seemed like my mucous plug. as far as how i was feeling, i had a really bad day that day. if i wasnt sleeping, i was crying and i remember making myself fall asleep shortly before my water broke because i felt very weird and nauseated. they told me early that morning (before 11am) that i had a fever and my white blood cell count was up and the babys heart rate had gone up, which they believed to be due to infection, but i didnt get the c-section until almost 6pm. i really just feel like this could have been prevented. they did however have me on antibiotics the whole time because i tested positive for group b strep.
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Kelly Pracchia
- Mar 2, 2009 12:31 pm
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I'm so sorry to hear about your entire situation; it's horrible and I'm sorry you lost your son. My water broke with my daughter, Sofia, at 22 weeks. I was on hospitalized bedrest until 28 weeks, delivered Sofia by C-section bc my placenta started to separate. I was on antibiotics when I was admitted, and never developed an infection. Sofia was perfect, a hair less than 3 lbs., no brain bleeds, no lung problems, everything was great. She too was on antibiotics after she was born just in case. Unfortunately, she developed an infection called Serratia, and died after 7 days of life. Hardest thing I ever dealt with in my life, always will be. I know at first I blamed every single person in that hospital, they all should've done something, anything to change the outcome. But when it comes down to it, all the blaming and guilt can not bring her back, and I truly believe they did all they could. I did get her medical records from the hospital just to look them over, and just to have them, it was her whole life on paper, I felt I deserved them. I know it's so draining, exhausting to rethink everything, wishing, praying to go back and do over something, anything. I still have issues, questions, frustration, I think all of us that have lost a child will always have those feelings, you just learn to live with them. I'm so sorry, it's just devastating. I'm thinking of you and your family.
Kelly
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elenahope
- Mar 10, 2009 4:46 pm
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hello
I am so sorry about what happened. I know it's so difficult to lose a child. I've been there. I'm sure everything seems so surreal and you wished that all this is just a nightmare. Stay strong and you'll get through this somehow.
About what happened to you, regarding placenta previa and your water breaking; it's frustrating and it's easier to put blame on the medical profession. I did the same thing. I also had placenta previa and my water broke at 25wks. I was bedrest in the hospital and didn't go into labor at 29wks. I really thought my daughter had a great chance of being okay. However, her lungs were too immature and she didn't make it. I blamed my OB for not diagnosing that I was slowly leaking a wk before it happened. I was sent home twice before I was diagnosed that my water broke. It's so much easier to blame others so that we wouldn't have to deal with our losses. But the unfortunate thing is that no matter what we do, we still don't have our babies with us. We just need to learn to accept the loss and live our lives as best as we could in honor of our babies.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. May you find peace within your heart.
Sincerely,
Elena
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MangoMomma
- Mar 12, 2009 7:53 am
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If you truly have the time, energy, and are emotionally strong enough to hear the truth, whatever it may be - and are still in doubt, then yes - I'd want to know. I'd make an apt with another doctor and an attorney - and I'd find out if anyone was at fault and should be held accountable, or if it was just nature gone wrong. It could help give you peace of mind and of heart.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Please take care.
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