Still missing my daughter..

Welcome to Share!

I'm so sorry to hear of Emily Anne's passing. I know how hard it is to lose a child and am here to listen any time you need to talk. Sometimes having a distraction, like going out with friends, helps to give you an outlet for the sadness of losing a child. It doesn't mean that you've forgotten about her.

Tracy

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your sweet Emily Anne. I do know that tug between staying in bed with the covers over my head and going out and living. I also felt strange at first like people would think I was "over it" if I did normal things. Of course nothing could be farther from the truth.

Your little angel absolutely lives through you. I know in my heart of hearts our angels smile when we take steps towards sunshine and live in honor of them.

My thoughts are with you,
Lauren

I'm sorry for your loss of your baby Emily Anne, my son Tristan was also stillborn and although he never took a breath, he was very much alive when he was inside me and the pain is very hard at times and we all deal with grief differently and if you want to go out... go don't let others judge you... only you know the pain you feel.
thinking of you
Trish

I am so sorry for your loss of Emily Anne. Nothing in life prepares you for a journey like this. You will never forget her nor will you ever get over losing her. It will forever be a part of you, but does that mean you shouldnt continue to live? Heck no! I have been just existing since my daughter passed away 5 months ago. Scared to attempt to laugh or allow any type of joy and happiness into my heart. Then I realized crying more does not mean I love and miss her more and cyring less does not mean I love and miss her less.

I miss her when I a smiling, when I am watching tv, when I am driving, taking a bath, sleeping, eating etc. I will forever miss her as you will your girl.

Please dont every defend your feelings and dont let others judge you! For the most part, people are well meaning but then there are the others.....

Take good care of yoruself!
Yolonda
^i^D'Lon Grace's Mommy

i'm so sorry for your lost of Emily Anne. My daughter was stillborn too at 25 weeks last month on the 25th but it seems like yesterday, i cry everyday for her, i wish i can hold her one more time. People don't understant what we going through right now because they don't feel the pain of losing a child. Take care kathy

Hello Ethan and Emily's Mommy,
 I understand how people can judge you, and never ask you how you are feeling. Just because you decided to get up and live your life, does not mean you don't grieve for your child. No one can truly understand the lose of a child unless they lost one themselves. My twins girls 1st birthday went by and people thought it was years ago because I handle things so well. Yeah I got up went ot work and did things. course there were times I went home and cried my eyes out, but people didn't know that.
It's a cruel world and there are good things in this life and sometimes you have ot rise above the crap to see the sun.
Just remember we understand your grief. and we understand that your child would want you to keep living. You are so young, the sky is the limit. Enjoy your life...your child lives through you.
my thoughts are wish you. darlene

Hey Ethan and Emily's mommy

agree that people do not understand how we feel.

I lost my baby boy in October last year, i am sick of people's expectation of me - how they expect me to act, expecting me to be normal, like nothing has happened, that i am alright.
Others are over protective thinking that i shouldn't be doing things wanting to take over and quieting the conversation when my sons name is spoken but i need to speak about him.

also really hate it when people say i know how you feel because they just don't - i don't know how you feel - i know how it feels to lose a baby but i do not know how you feel - our circumstances are different and we are different people. All we can do is what is best for us and our family and at some point we must get on with our lives. do what is right for you, for only you know when you are ready. although it's hard don't worry about what others think, it's your life you need to live it.

take care
Chris

Oh sweetheart. I am so sorry for the loss of your little girl, Emily. I can understand where you are coming from, yet with all you have had to endure I would take part in whatever activity will make you feel better; feel normal; feel like you can make it to the next day. If people are judging you then they aren't your friends. No one know what it is like to walk in your shoes unless they have been on the same journey. Please know that you are not alone on Share and we can relate if even in a small way.

Love, Kelly

I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT PEOPLE EXPECTING YOU TO BE A CERTAIN WAY. THEY WANT YOU TO BE "NORMAL" BUT HONESTLY WHAT IS "NORMAL". I HAVE PEOPLE IN MY LIFE WHO AFTER NOT LONG AFTER I BURIED MY SON SAID GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE WHAT HAPPENED HAPPENED AND I AM NOT SO SOCIAL WITH THIS PERSON BECAUSE THAT IS SOMETHING THAT HAS TO BE INSIDE OF YOU. YOU DECIDE HOW YOU WANT TO ACT AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO AND SAY. UNLESS THEY WERE YOU THEY CANNOT TELL YOU HOW YOU SHOULD ACT.

People can not understand and you have go on and live a normal life. You baby is not physically with you and you can notlive your life as she is. You can carry her and do whatever you feel you want. That is a pain that will always be with you. You just learn to live with it. Most people dont know what you feel and will tell you things that they think. They will never understand so you just have to overlook them. I just program it in my mind that the preson is ignorant and their opinion does not matter. God knows what he is doing. The parents that loose their children are strong and can live with the pain. Imagine most people having to burry thier babies. They would completly fall apart. BUt we pick up and move on.No matter how slow the process or what "strange" things we may do. We are the best parents because we loved our babies enough to let them go.
IF ever you wanna talk you can call me because I know what it is like to loose your only child and it being stillborn. My son's name was Trenton. He would be on on the 12th of June had he lived.
BUt if you wanna talk e-mail me and I will even give you my numbers so you can call if you want.

I lost my daughter, Nevaeh Danniell, Feb 9,2009. I was just shy of 23 weeks. I have no idea what caused me to go in to labor and don't trust my doctors judgment. Unlike your situation, Nevaeh was alive but my doctor told me he was not going to try and save her. I try to get back to my life, try to ignore all the looks and questions, but all you van do sometimes is take a step back and remember that it is you that is grieving. You need to do what helps you and if they don't understand, ignore them. Everybody deals with loss their own way. I know that wether it was miscarriage, still born or neonatal loss it's all hard. She was your daughter. I know exactly the pain your going through. It is hard. I still have problems going to the store because of all the pregnant women or the baby section at Walmart. Eventually I think that it's not that we forget our baby's but try and live life knowing that you will see her again. If you need somebody to talk to let me know. It may help me as well. I hope it really does get better.

Brandy

I'm so sorry you lost your daughter, Nevaeh. I read the story you posted on your profile, it's just devastating. We also lost our daughter, Sofia, in Oct 08. She lived 7 days in the NICU; she developed an infection. It was so hard in the beginning; it's still hard. I am glad that you found Share, there are many moms on here that have been in your situation. It was helpful for me and still is to be able to talk to other moms about my feelings and just going through everything I went through. I hope that Share also is a place you find healing, and that it will help you to write out your feelings. I am thinking of you and your family.

Kelly

No, you are not alone, I lost my son on Feb, 9 2009 he was only 4 days old, but not a days goes by that I don't think about him, I miss him more and more everyday, and I take it One day at at time , I have to save that my Husband does not talk about it at all, he blocks it all out as if it never happened, and for me I had to seek help for myself and now I'm actually doing better than I was 4 and1/2 months ago, but just take it one day at a time and things will get better.

Robin

I lost my son in March of 06. He was born at 26 weeks and lived in the NICU for 5 weeks.

I wanted to tell you what you are feeling is completely normal. For the longest time I wouldn't even laugh because I felt like people would say "why is she laughing... doesn't she miss her son?" Of course now that time has passed, I know that those thoughts were in my head only and people actually told me how happy they were to see me out and smiling again.

You need to bring some "normal" back into your life. Your life will be forever changed by the death of your child, and only someone else who has lost a child can truly understand that. Do what you need to do for yourself and please don't worry about what others think... you have enough to deal with right now.

Feel free to email me if you want to talk.

Tara

Aww bless u...no youre not the only one who feels that way..my beautiful boy was born still on 20th jan 2oo9..i always feel guilty if i go out with friends and try do normal things,always end up crying for my much missed boy...always feel like i shouldnt smile..very rare i even feel like smiling now since losing my ashley anyway...soz ive gone on,just want u to know how youre feeling normal,i here if u wanna talkx