hurt mother

I am sorry to hear about your lost. I too have a weak cervix which cause my water to break at 22 weeks. Right when is was so into my pregnancy and enjoying it. It was so painful and frustrating to loss my little girl, Keishanna. My doctor recommend at as soon as think I am pregnant to go to a OBN/GYN doctor. I am also to have a Cerclage at 12-14 weeks. I suggest that you talk to your doctor about getting the Cerclage earlier.

Also seek God direction because he all give good advice and he has help me with my miscarriage.

I am so sorry about your losses.

I am thinking that if you decide to try again that perhaps you should consult with another doctor who will get you the cerclage earlier in pregnancy to prevent this from happening again.

You can make it through a pregnancy longer than 4 months with a cerclag and competent doctor - the success stories on this site are proof of that.
I don't know why so many of us have had to lose our precious babies - i am told it is for a reason but i am unsure if this is right -
But have faith in yourself and in your body and never give up hope.
When the time is right i wish you all the best for a successful pregnancy and happy outcome.
take care now
Chris

Hello Keisha:

My name is Monica, and I have a dynamic or incompotent cervix honestly this last pregnancy was the first time they put a clerclage in at 19 weeks and it has and was the biggest mistake of my life. I broke my water at 21 weeks and 1 day due to an infection I got from the cerclage. I had to deliever my baby girl because I was having alot of contractions they gave me stadol but it didn't help she was alive until she got into the birth canal my Baby Gabriella did not make it alive. I want to sometimes break apart but I have to precious baby girls 1 is 5 years old born at 32 weeks and my 2nd baby girl was born at 36 weeks because my bp was very high and her pulse was high. I went from my 17th week to my 36th week with an effaced cervix and my cervix mesurement of 0.2 cm thats why I say it's been the biggest mistake of my life agreeing to the cerclage my baby would of maybe still been in my belly. I lost her June 10 @ 9:37pm she weigh 10 1/2 oz and 11 1/4 in length. I did carry her and its been one of my biggest challenges in life I sometimes want to go with her but I think of my 2 baby girls Daniella and Isabella. So therefore I have 2 princesses and 1 angel

my water broke at 30 weeks, i was admitted to the hospital for 1 week then sent home on bed rest. 3 weeks later was told my baby girl died inutero as her umbilical chord was too short and got wrapped around her neck. I am full fo guilt, should they have taken her at 31 weeks? should they have kept me in the hospital and kept the heart monitor on my baby girl? Someone please help me find what SHOULD have been done. PLEASE!!!!

I am so sorry for your loss and I am sorry that you are getting lost in the *what-if* stage. I am not sure there is any rule that they *should* have followed, although I will admit I have never heard of a woman whose water has broken being sent home. usually they will keep you in the hospital and monitor you for infection since that is the big concern. I can't say that they would have or should have forseen the cord accident - sadly, those are typically tragic fluke accidents.

I know most of us here on Share have gone through the What-if phase after our pregnancies did not turn out as expected. But nearly 6 years later, I can tell you that it doesn't get you anywhere. It just makes it harder to move on. And please don't think I am telling you to move on with your life and forget about your angel, because I am not. I don't think there is a right way to grieve or to get through something like this. All I am saying is that the what-ifs will consume you if you let them and i hate to see anyone beat themselves up that much.

Big Hugs,
Jackie