Mother's Day

Welcome to Share. I am sorry for the loss of your son. I too have lost first daughter. Last year I was pregnant with her. I can only imagine hitting this holiday so close to your loss.

I am not sure what we will do. I've been kind of ignoring the day. I have found that lead ups to important days are most difficult and the day usually peaceful. I hope that will hold true for all of us celebrating our Mommyhood with our angels.

There is a Live chat Thursday, May 7 at 2pm EST. On issues surrounding Mother's Day with our very own Melissa Middleton, mom of quads, three survivors and one angel. Just go to the Community Center tab up at the top and you'll find it.

Thinking of you and yours,
Lauren

Hello and welcome to Share. I am so sorry for the loss of your son. No parent's heart should have to bear this pain. This will be my first Mother's Day without my daughter, as she died suddenly in September 08, she was 3years old. My husband asked me just yesterday for permission to buy me a gift because he told me, you know you are still a Mother.

I think that I have been trying to ignore it. I turn the channel when commercials come on and I've really tried hard not to think about it. But undoubtedly I cant help but wonder will I still receive the Happy Mother's Day phone calls? And if I dont, will I be mad that no one acknowledge me, or will I just chalk it up to they were trying not to hurt me?

I really have no advice for you because as you can see, I'm a mess with it myself I hope whatever you do or is done for you, it brings peace and comfort not sorrow and pain.

Take good care,
Yolonda

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. It's truly not fair. I hope that you are able to find some answers to your question. We are here for you.

Katie

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It's tough any time, but so close to Mother's Day makes it even harder. Like Lauren said, the days leading up to special days are sometimes harder than the actual day.

For me, I've always tried to spend time with my mom focusing on her and then steal away to spend some time alone. My family has always understood that I need that time for myself to do whatever I want to do since I don't have my daughter here. I hope that you will have a great day of relaxation and will be able to spend some time remembering your son.

Tracy

This is my first Mother's Day without my daughter, so I am really interested in how the rest of you have dealt with this before. I'm not really having a hard time thinking about it, I know I will always be her mommy, and I also know she knows that. I know that I'm so thankful I got to spend the time I did with her, I will cherish it forever.
I'm so sorry you lost your son, I'm sure closer to special days does make it harder. But do know that your son knows you were his mommy and that you loved him. Thinking of you.

Kelly

You know what Kelly, I thought I would be all bummed about it too. I was feeling really anxious about it last month, but now that it is approaching, I really dont feel any anxiety. I will admit some of the Mother's Day commercials sting, but for the most part I think I am going to be okay. Dwayne asked me for permission to buy me a Mother's Day present becaue he didnt know if I was ready yet. He also told me, "you know, you still are a part of that club".

I think my biggest thing now is, will I receive the Mother's Day calls or will my well meaning family and friends think it will upset me if they do?

You know, my mom asked me the other day about if it's okay or not if she brings up Sofia. I really didn't know how to answer. As much as I don't want to feel like people are forgetting her, I don't know if I'm comfortable with her just bringing her up whenever SHE feels like it. I think us mommies of angels are going to get upset either way it falls, whether they call or not, our tears will be there wishing our girls were here. I totally get it Yolanda, I feel the same way, I think a lot of us do. But your husband is so right, you will ALWAYS be in the mommy club, no matter what. Your daughter knows that, you will forever be her mom, and I'm sure she'll be smiling and blowing kisses down on you on Mother's Day.

Kelly

Thank you Kelly. Yours too.

Lauren beat me to the punch!!

Consider coming to the live chat. If anything, you get to talk to us crazy people.

As for Mother's Day, it's a tough one for me. Every year I think what Kate would be doing.

Just do what you feel like doing, nothing else.

Take care,

Kelly