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Recurrent Miscarriages, Incompetatnt Cervix - Need to hear ur success stories

hope4me - 06:56am Sep 23, 2009 EST

Hello Ladies,

I am new to this website. I am 32 and have had 3 consecutive miscarriages!!! I really need you women who have been through the same situation to give me some hope. I want to hear about your combat if u were in a situation similar 2 mine.

I have always been overweight(Pre Preg Wt 208 lbs). I took metformin as I had irregular menstrual periods and was diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovaries (PCOD) when we were TTC. I have one kidney by birth (left one) and have 2 cervices with a septum. So, I have a Didelphyus Uterus with the left horn slightly larger than the left. The perinatologist feels that with this kind of a uterus shape I can conceive and give birth.

I conceived the first time through an assisted IUI cycle (Injections) and conceived twins in the right horn (smaller). Unfortunately, at 15 weeks I started cramping and lost my babies (boy and a girl). I did not have a D&C as everthing just made its way out. The doctors said that with barely half the uterus and a multiple gestation, this was bound to happen. I was not ready to buy this theory as dont women carry multiples ??? But this was my first pregnancy and so I juss did not think too much.

Within a month I conceived again with a singleton, this time naturally. It was in the left horn (larger). We thought that it would go well this time. But I needed an emergency cerclage at
17 weeks as I had dilated around 2 cm. My cervix was stiched. The pregnancy stayed for just 2 weeks more. I had a uterine infection (infection of the amniotic fluid). My baby (boy) had passed away and I had to be induced labor at 19.5 weeks. I needed a D&C this time. The doctors said that I had real bad luck with this one. Again, blaming it on bad luck did not appeal to me, but.....

After a year I conceived again in April this year. This time we wanted to ensure that there was to be a singleton in the larger horn. The doctors had also planned to put the stich at 12 weeks well before time to enhance my chances of a near to term pregnancy. I conceived again with a natural IUI (no meds) cycle. At 12.5 weeks, I had a cervical stitch put in place. From week 16, I started 17P Progestron shots(to relax the uterine muscles and prevent preterm labor). At 18 weeks, I started to have shooting lower back pains and when I went to the hospital, I was already 3-4 cm dilated. The stitch had to be removed and the water bag had to be broken to allow delivery. I lost my baby girl!!!

I am totally devasted. I have an abnormally shaped uterus. But dont women carry multiples ? I atleast have more than half of a normal uterine cavity ? Then why should I not carry a baby at least close to term ?? I had 2 consecutive cerclages but none of them worked. I have heard about a Trans Abdominal Cerclage(TAC) which works when a vaginal fails. But the TAC is a major procedure and I am scared that this should not affect my ability to get pregnant as it can be done before even TTC. What other are my options ? Can anyone suggest a very good Doctor in NYC who specializes in high-high risk cases ? Will I ever have a healthy living baby ?

Please tell me me how u dealt with an incompetent cervix or recurrent miscarriages. As much as I want to get pregnant, I am scared to death that I will not go beyond the 4th month.

Grace's Mom - Oct 21, 2009 6:27 am (#1 Total: 12)

^i^D'Lon Grace^i^ ~ Forever 3 ~ Missing you every second of every day!

Hello and welcome to Share. I am so sorry for all that you have been through. Although I have had a miscarriage, it was just chalked up to one of those things. Years later in 2005 I gave birth to my little girl at 23w1d and that was the first time I had ever heard the term incompetent cervix. We chose not to try for any more biological children as our daughter spent 122 days in the NICU, came home and did fantastic cognitively and developmentally, but she did have fragile lungs which led to an overworked heart and she died suddenly in 2008. I know I would not survive another NICU stay and definately not the death of another child.

I certainly hope that you are able find answers that will allow you to ultimately carry a baby to term.

Take good care,
Yolonda

KHolley - Oct 21, 2009 6:39 am (#2 Total: 12)

Welcome to Share. I am so sorry for your losses, I cannot even begin to imagine the pain that you are feeling. I would head over to the Cerclage folder, there are many discussions on the types of cerclages and the success rate. Good luck and keep us updated.

Katie

Amberlee - Dec 2, 2009 5:30 am (#3 Total: 12)

There is hope :)

Sorry you have had to go thru all that. Myself I had 3 miscarriages, all within 3 years. No doctor could figure out why and when I became pregnant in may of 09' they did an ultrasound and found that I had a bicournate uterus ( it's a full divide so basiclly a double uterus) on top of being epileptic. I was told that my chances of having a child was slim to none, that becasue I am so petite, with the uterus, and epilepsy..plus I chose no meds while I was pregnant becuase of the risk of birth defects they said that carrying to a safe gestational age would be a like 10% chance. Dont worry, the more you worry the harder it will be on you. Though my pregnancy was rough and to be honest I was absolutely miserable, it was worth it. I dialated at 24 weeks to a 1 1/2 but they didnt do the clerage thing, we just kept an eye on it weekly. I had preeclampsia and had to deliver at 30w3d because I was in kidney failure. My little girl was little at 2 pounds 11 ounces, and initally was in bad shape, but she pulled thru, shes only 2 weeks old now but off all machines and only needs a feeding tube

All is possible trust me, it may be hard to get, and there may be pain and heartache, but in the end when you have that child, it makes it all worth it, all the pain is just gone, at least it was for me. I am in texas so I dont know any docs to recomend for ya, but maybe this will lift your spirits just a bit

PB290018

Pain and then Joy - Jan 6, 2010 6:04 pm (#4 Total: 12)

These stories are so heart felt. I myself just lost my son yesterday Jan 5. I was 19 weeks when my labor had to be induced because my cerclage and E.R. cerclage did not work for me. I also recently lost my daughter in August. She was a 23 wk old baby and a fighter in the NICU.She was getting ready to come home but she got sick from a bloood transfusion. And at 5 months she passed away. She never got a chance to come home.My hubby and I are going to try again but we will def be doing the Trans Abdominal. Let me know Amberlee and hope4me how you are doing.

esg1 - Jan 7, 2010 7:05 am (#5 Total: 12)

Abigail's Mom (29 weeks, 3/21/05)

I am so sorry for both of your losses. No parent should have to endure the pain of losing one child, let alone two. Try to be gentle with yourself. I hope that with time you can find some comfort here, at home and in your heart.

Take care,
Ellen

Peasinapod - Jan 7, 2010 3:36 pm (#6 Total: 12)

Momma of Sky - now 5 (32 weeker), Will - 3 1/2 years old (37 weeks) and Adalynn - 16 months (37 weeks) and baby boy on the way!

I am so sorry for the losses of your daughter and your son...parents should not have to endure such things.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Kristyn

Pain and then Joy - Jan 7, 2010 4:17 pm (#7 Total: 12)

Thank you peasinapod. Writing blogs really helps me get through the day. I cried all last night and today hoping to get sonme comfort from my tears. My family has been trying to contact me and my husband volunteered to stay home with me but I really don't want to talk to anyone right now. I want my children to be here with me. I have wanted children so badly for so long and when I finally get them they are taken away from me. MY BODY is just letting me down each time.

nay nay - Jan 24, 2010 4:01 pm (#8 Total: 12)

I had 4 micarriages and 1 cerclage placed.The doctors told me my baby was fine and everything was normal until 1-9-10 when i went to the emergency room for abdominal pain thats when i found out i had an urinary tract infection and they gave me some antibiotics but i kept going to the emergency 3 times and they didnt do nothing but send me home until the 4th time when they told me the infection spreaded to my baby and they couldnt do nothing to save him so i had to deliver but they had to take the stitches out. I was 22 weeks when i lost my baby boy.20 weeks when i lost my 3rd baby boy.8 weeks when i lost the second baby and 16 weeks when i lost my 1st baby boy.Yes i do have an incompetent cervix but why do keep losing my babies as soon as i get 5 months can they give me something at least to hold my babies so the next i wouldnt have to go through this? Oh yeah my last baby was the only baby i carried that ever made it to 1 pound and 2 ounces.Somebody please give me a suggestion.

Replies to this message

Jackie G (Jan 24, 2010 5:42 pm)

Peasinapod (Jan 24, 2010 6:05 pm)

Jackie G - Jan 24, 2010 5:42 pm (#9 Total: 12)

Mom to Kimberly (25 wkr, now 6 yrs!) & Matthew (38.5 wkr, almost 4 yrs!)

Replying to: nay nay (Jan 24, 2010 4:01 pm)

I had 4 micarriages and 1 cerclage placed.The doctors told me my baby was fine and everything was normal until...

Re: Recurrent Miscarriages, Incompetatnt Cervix - Need to hear ur success stories

This is such a hard question to answer... There are other things they could try (Progesterone shots) but you don't typically start those until 16 weeks. You could have antibiotics and meds to stop contractions after your cerclage. But it all comes down to figuring out the cause of why you keep having problems around 5 months.

Have you met with a perinatologist? If not I would totally recommend it as they might be more likely to know the reason this keeps happening.

I wish you lots of luck and hope you do find some answers.

Hugs,
Jackie

Peasinapod - Jan 24, 2010 6:05 pm (#10 Total: 12)

Momma of Sky - now 5 (32 weeker), Will - 3 1/2 years old (37 weeks) and Adalynn - 16 months (37 weeks) and baby boy on the way!

Replying to: nay nay (Jan 24, 2010 4:01 pm)

I had 4 micarriages and 1 cerclage placed.The doctors told me my baby was fine and everything was normal until...

Re: Recurrent Miscarriages, Incompetatnt Cervix - Need to hear ur success stories

I am so sorry for the losses you have had to endure. It is not something I can understand myself, but I will keep you in my thoughts.

My understanding about IC (I have it, too) is that many times around 5 months the baby weighs close to a pound and that is when problems often begin because the baby's weight begins to put more stress on your cervix. At least this how it has been explained to me by my OB. As for what Jackie said...I have taken antibiotics 2 out of 3 times I've had a cerclage placed as precaution, but having a cerclage is always a risk for infection as it's a foreign body in your body (again, according to my OB). As for the 17P injections there is research that says it does work and research that says it doesn't...there are also progesterone suppositories that can be used, but again they start around 16 weeks as Jackie mentioned. I'm sorry that you've had to go through so much. If you decide to try again, I would consult with a Peri if you haven't already.

Kristyn

Amberlee - Jan 24, 2010 6:59 pm (#11 Total: 12)

Just checking in :)

Hi again. Hope this finds you in better spirits now that some more time has passed. MY daughter is still in the nicu but still strong. I cant belie she is 2 months old now

getting big too, gained more than 3 pounds and 5 inches so far! And she loves her bath nights lol

P1100149

Baby Emilie - Jan 24, 2010 10:06 pm (#12 Total: 12)

Im really sorry for all your losses. I myself lost my lil girl Dec. 11,2009 and it hurts so bad, but I cant even think of losing more than one baby. I also have an IC my stitch did not come out from the cerclage placed my water bag came out the side of my cervix and but my ob recommends a TAC before I even get pregnant again. But Im scared myself to get that done. I wish you the best of luck and hope you can find the answers and help you are looking for again sorry for what you have gone through.

S.B.

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