esg1
- Oct 6, 2009 7:04 am
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Abigail's Mom (29 weeks, 3/21/05) |
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Welcome to Share. You are experiencing a pain that we wish no parent had to experience but unfortunately there are too many people here who have felt the loss. I think recognizing that you need help is the first help. I think that many people have found that they cannot traverse the path alone and call their doctor or NICU and ask for the name of a psychiatrist who specializes in grief counseling, sometimes hospitals have them on staff, attend group counseling, blog, cry and/ or all of the above.
Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Ellen
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may1985
- Oct 6, 2009 7:13 am
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thank you so much ellen for answering it feels good to know that someone is praying for you.
May.
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Jackie G
- Oct 6, 2009 12:04 pm
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Mom to Kimberly (25 wkr, 6 yrs!) & Matthew (38.5 wkr, 4 yrs!) |
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Hi May. Welcome to Share. The loss of a child can be absolutely heartbreaking to a parent and there is no right way to go through the grieving process. I'm sure many of the parents here on Share can tell you what things helped them (Ellen gave some great ideas for support) but at the end of the day, you have to handle this any way that you can. Don't let anyone tell you to get over it, or to deal with it a certain way. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to scream and yell, than belt it out! Whatever will help you, is what you need to do.
Big Hugs,
Jackie
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Akeelah's Mommy
- Oct 6, 2009 12:15 pm
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A moment in our arms, a lifetime in our hearts. |
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Welcome to Share. My heart aches for you. I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter. I last held my daughter 15 months ago. I still find some days extremely difficult.
I found comfort speaking with a therapist. As supportive as my husband was it was nice to have someone there just for me. It's been a great release.
Be gentle with yourself. This journey after the loss of our beautiful babies is a journey that lasts a lifetime.
Take good care,
Lauren
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Angel Love
- Oct 6, 2009 2:06 pm
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Looking forward to seeing you at Shareunion October 1-3 in Atlanta, GA!! |
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Welcome to Share! I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I know the heartache that comes with losing a child as well. My church family was very supportive of us and speaking to my pastor also helped me to see that I'd done nothing to "deserve" or "cause" this. I'm glad to hear that your husband is being supportive and that you can talk with him. Please know we're always here to listen and know how overwelming it can feel. Tracy 
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TrishloveTristan
- Oct 9, 2009 5:24 pm
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welcome to Share and I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree with Jackie, there is not time frame and everyone grieve is different from others. Its been 10 month for me and the tears just flow when I think of my angel. I've been to a psychiatrist and i'm taking medication for depression and anxiety, I would like to get off the meds but for now they are helping. I'm too angry at god to go to him/her. You will find your own way. I'm glad that your husband is there for you. You are not alone in this long road, share is a great community of people who understand your pain too well.
Please take care of yourself,
Trish
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may1985
- Oct 9, 2009 11:27 pm
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Thank you so much for all of ur support and i'm so sorry for your losses too i know it's too hard for each one of u as much as it is for me. It's very nice to find someone i can relate to without telling me that it's ok and it happens to everybody.
Thanks.
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Shroyerbk11
- Oct 12, 2009 7:47 am
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Offer it up
It is easy for me to say this but the truth of it resounds through all time and eternity. GOD LISTENS. Little by little and moment by moment try to focus on the living God who understands and knows the pain of your dear loss. He gave up and lost His dear Son, Jesus, for us. As much that is within you now, even if its for just a flash point/moment offer up your pain and bereavement. Blake Shroyer
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chantelle (baby ashleys mummy)
- Oct 12, 2009 4:28 pm
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Im so sorry for the loss of your daughter...its going to be 9 months on the 2oth since i lost my boy,ashley...i still cry most days and think of him constantly..life feels so hard without him....i too always feel like shouting and screaming,feel so angry....i agree that there is no time frame for our grief...we are always going to miss our angels and the future that should have been...wish i could take away your pain...know you are not alone..im here if you need to talk...hugs..chantellex
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may1985
- Oct 13, 2009 9:25 am
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I went to my doctor today and she told me that i could start trying again after my second cycle which is in about 10 days. I'm really scared but happy . I have mixed emotions i want a baby so bad but scared of trying again.
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Jackie G
- Oct 13, 2009 12:29 pm
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Mom to Kimberly (25 wkr, 6 yrs!) & Matthew (38.5 wkr, 4 yrs!) |
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I'm glad you got a "go" pass at your appt. I hope that things happen just the way you are hoping.  -Jackie
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^Trinity's^ Mommy
- Oct 19, 2009 4:01 pm
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Mommy to Jadon 34 weeker and Trinity our angel! |
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Sorry for you loss
Im so sorry for your loss I know how difficult this is for you! I lost my daughter 3 years ago! You will find the most amazing support on SHARE. I know I wouldnt be the women I am today without SHARE! PLease know we are always here for you if you need someone!
~Samantha
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may1985
- Oct 20, 2009 12:47 am
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thank you so much for all of ur support u've been very comprehensive which is something that not a lot of people would give u. i wish noone would have to go through an experience of a loss but that's life.
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^Trinity's^ Mommy
- Oct 20, 2009 5:33 am
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Mommy to Jadon 34 weeker and Trinity our angel! |
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I know things are soo crazy in your life now but please know that we are here for you and that we understand! I truely hope that you find the support and comfort here from people who know how you feel!
~Samantha
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sdeguzma@maine.rr.com
- Nov 12, 2009 9:44 pm
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I'm so sorry for your loss, although everyone grieves differently it's still the same pain. The kind of pain you never thought would happen to you. IT's been10 years since the lost of my daughter, her twin ask me to make a memorial of her so I did. As much as it hurt making it, In some way it brings me closer to her. I don't know if the pain will ever go away for me even after all this time, but I have learned to live with it better. I hope you have all the support to help you get through this, my heart goes out to you and my thoughts are with you
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may1985
- Nov 13, 2009 12:52 am
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Thank u so much for ur support. It's been 3 months now since the loss and i still feel that something is missing i tried to live with the pain and i'm trying to make my daughter a beautiful memory in my life. I think time will help me.
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MotherOfAngelJYE
- Nov 13, 2009 2:53 am
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Heyy
As for me... yeah the same
feelings you get after your loss you statrt to feel ...... well yeah blank...
when youve had your child and then dont have them in your arms..... you dont wanna be near anyone elses children or see some one pregnant because you miss your own you miss that feeling... it just makes you sad deppressed.
Moving on isnt supposed to be easy....... infact moving on kinda doesnt exist after losing your entire life.
No matter what you wont move on... its your child not a parent or grand parent or freind, its our child. you will always think abt them allways be apart of them..... were mothers.... and when we lose a child we dont feel like a mother anymore... it suddenly goes away and guilt and greif take overthat making you feel as though its our fault.
all we can do is remember them and still love them, have them in your heart and on your mind, they'll never be replaced.
even if we have another child, were always gonna be missing a part of our life.
what i do is no matta what if some one asks me if i have children i say yes his names jye he 5 months old today. your still a mother
dont mourn they want you to be happy, your still her mother.
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chantelle (baby ashleys mummy)
- Nov 22, 2009 6:32 pm
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yes you will always be your angels mummy,no matter how much time goes by..you will always miss her and wonder how things could and should have been...with you she lives on...thinking of you..chantellexx
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Lilly Ann
- Nov 27, 2009 11:47 am
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I just lost my daughter 3 weeks ago so I feel you pain. My husband's been great too but it's just not the same for them. I went to my first counseling session on Monday and it helped so much. She told me that what I felt was normal. It helped me maybe you should look into it. I always found support groups in my area.
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Grace's Mom
- Nov 28, 2009 6:31 am
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^i^D'Lon Grace^i^ ~ Forever 3 ~ Missing you every second of every day! (I HATE PH!) |
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@Lilly Ann
Hello and welcome to Share. I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. Nothing in life prepares you for this type of journey or the aftermath that follows. I know your pain first hand as I lost my 3 year old daughter (former 23 weeker) suddenly last year and I have been struggling to live my new normal since. I am happy that counseling has helped you. I hope it continues to provide you with what you need. Please know that we are here for you as well. I really done without this place during my daughter's life and especially after her death. I hope you find as much comfort and support here as I do.
Take good care,
Yolonda
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may1985
- Nov 29, 2009 12:09 pm
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Thanks so much for everyone's suppport hearing ur experiences has definitly made me stronger. I still crack sometimes especially that everyone around me seems to be pregnant now but my daughter will always be here with me and i'll always be proud of her and of how much she struggled to stay with me.
Thank u.
May.
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Savanas mom
- Dec 2, 2009 1:55 pm
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Dont give up!! please.. it gets easier after a while. i lost twins just before thanksgiving last year. i didnt even know that i was pregnant when i lost them so in my mind that made it a little bit easier for me but it was still hard with my sister inlaw jus having a baby 2 weeks b4 that. i was heart broken and didnt know how to cope. i was so mad that she got to have a baby and i didnt. i was scared that i would never to be able to have a baby. a month later i got pregnant again and i was scared to death. i managed to carry her to 36 weeks and then found out that if she hadnt been born then she would have died.. and so would've i! shes doing good now and i thank the lord everyday that shes here and shes okay now. just plese dont give up!! if you need to talk my e-mail is lilsweetheart4ever2006@yahoo.com please dont hesitate!! 
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