Trying to get pregnant after premature birth w help of fertility dr???

I am sure you are feeling all of those things plus many you can't put into words. There are so many wonderful people here that will be able to cheer you on during these times. I know it is difficult to try again, but you are being so brave and that is wonderful. You've taken the first step to a healthy pregnancy, so I wish you all of the best. Keep us posted and I hope you are able to conceive quickly and have a long 10 months of pregnancy!

Kristyn

First, let me say how sorry I am that your daughter did not make it. I don't think there is anything more heartbreaking than a parent losing their child.

Trying again after a loss (or in my case a very early preemie) was very stressful. It's hard to make a decision when you don't have all the answers from the first time around.

The good news, is that you will be watched closer and your concerns will be taken more seriously. That way should something happen you and your dr will be ready to jump on it.

Good Luck!
Jackie

Welcome to Share! I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It's such a difficult thing to go through. I know in our situation, hubby wasn't too keen on trying again for the simple fact that he felt like he wasn't able to "protect" our daughter that we lost. I hope that the treatments that you're going through will make a difference and successful pregnancy.

Tracy

Hello and welcome to Share. I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing prepares you for all the emotions with having a premature child them ultimately losing her.

I suffered with infertility for many years before finally becoming pregnant. Although I have no experience with fertility treatments after a loss, I do have my fair amount of knowledge regarding it. If you want to chat, please feel free at yctoney@netscape.net.

Take good care,
Yolonda

Hi there,
My husband and I went through infertility treatments to conceive our sons, who were born at 22 weeks, 5 days in March 2007. they did not survive. several months after our boys were born and passed, we resumed the same type of fertility treatments, which didn't work. we moved onto IVF in Feb 2008 and were pregnant five months later.

Struggling with infertility in a "normal" world is tough, and going through it again after a loss is even harder. I do wish you much luck though. One of my tried-and-true methods of staying sane -- and something that i believe ultimately helped us achieve both pregnancies was acupuncture.

erin

I just lost my twin boys, Tristan and Gunnar, at 21 weeks on December 20 and 23. My husband and I tried to conceive for a year on our own before we were referred to a fertility doctor, who diagnosed problems with both of us. We finally became pregnant after 3 tries at IVF. I miss my babies desperately and although I know I can't have them back, I want to be pregnant again as soon as possible. A friend of mine had some pretty unhelpful things to say about my eagerness to try again, but your posts have made me feel better about the way I feel. As you well know, not much does make you feel better after such a devastating loss, so thank you!

I am very sorry for the loss of your twin boys. I hope that you are able to find peace and healing throughout this difficult time.

Warmly,
Kristyn

Sometimes, even friends who think they are helping, don't know what to say.

I have a friend who has had to have all sorts of fertility help to get pregnant in the past and still wanted more children. A mutual friend would constantly say "why do you want more? Isn't 2 enough?!?". So imagine when my friend became shockingly pregnant with no fertility help... she just wanted to share it with someone who would be as excited for her as she was. Our other friend was one of the last to know because my friend was worried about her reaction. I don't think our other friend means it badly, she just doesn't always say things in the best way.

No one, I mean *no-one* knows the heartbreak of losing a child. I don't, and I would never pretend to know that I did. It is up to each parent going through this to decide how to grieve. If getting pregnant again, helps you get through this, than go for it! I promise, we'll hold your hand whenever you need it.

Good Luck,
Jackie