Please anyone help!!!!!!........

Hello and welcome to Share. I am so sorry for your losses. Nothing in life prepares you for such a journey nor the aftermath that follows. Although I have no experience with cerclages, many women on the board has. I'm sure someone will chime in hear soon enough to share their experience with you. I certainly understand your fear because it doesnt go a unwarranted, but know that many women have gone on to have a successful pregnancy after having a cerclage placed.

Wishing you the best of luck!

Take good care,
Yolonda

Hi and Welcome to Share. There are a ton of women here on Share who have been helped by a cerclage.

I had one in my 2nd pregnancy (my daughter is a former 25 weeker) and I carried my son to 38.5 weeks. In all fairness they did not know for sure if I had IC or problems with PTL so I had both a cerclage and the 17P shots in my 2nd pregnancy.

I can think of one mom in general who is on her 4th pregnancy - her first was a preemie due to IC and the next 2 babies were full term due to a cerclage. She is pregnant with her 4th and will get another cerclage in a few weeks.

The good thing about knowing you have IC is that it is easy to manage for the most part. You will get a cerclage early on in your pregnancy (12-14 weeks is the best time to do it) and then they will monitor you and there is a good chance you will be on bedrest. These combinations give you the best chance for a successful pregnancy. Yes, there are so women for whom a cerclage does not work, but that is less likely than you probably imagine.

I wish you lots of luck and I'll try to get you some more women with cerclage experience to chime in.
-Jackie

Thank you very much, both of you! I am planning on talking to my peri about the shot. I have read about it. They plan on putting the stitch in at about 13 weeks so hopefully that will make my chances better. I just want to be a mother more than anything and I never expected it to not just happen. Now after two losses all I can do is hope and educate myself on as much as possible. I just need to know that after two losses in less than a year that it is possible to walk out of a hospital with a healthy baby in your arms. Thanks again ladies.

Hi and welcome! I am so sorry for your previous losses. I hope next time proves to have a positive outcome for you. I have a feeling I'm the momma Jackie was talking about . My first was a preemie (32 weeks). My doctor is reluctant to claim it was due to IC because she was born so late and most IC happens earlier. However, I did have funneling and shortening at 29 weeks, so we are not 100% sure what happened. My second pregnancy was suppose to be normal. We didn't plan for anything major. However, at 12 weeks I started spotting and was very achy. I never cramped, but was very sore and it did not go away even when I rested. By 14 weeks the spotting had gotten worse and so had the discomfort. An u/s showed I was funneling/shortening. I had a cerclage placed that afternoon. I was petrified and learned that I would more than likely be on bedrest the remainder of my pregnancy. I did lie on the couch for the next 6 months, but I ended up with a healthy full term baby (37.6 weeks). My 3rd pregnancy I had a cerclage placed at 13 weeks. I felt great until about 15 weeks, when I started spotting. I had spotting (very minor, though freaked me out each time) throughout my pregnancy. I did have some PTL that required some meds at 33 weeks and 36 weeks (they removed my cerclage a week early due to contractions). This actually stopped the labor and I didn't have her for a week! This time I will be getting my cerclage at 13 weeks and I'm hoping to get 17P shots or progesterone suppositories to help with the PTL part. I hope this helps you feel more comfortable. Also, please know this is a wonderful site to help you throughout your journey. I wish you the best.

Kristyn

Hi and Welcome to Share,

The 19th week ultrasound showed that I had an IC, my cervix measured close to 1.9cm during that week, I had the cerclage a day later. Placed on strict bedrest, I was told to only get up to use the bathroom and not be on my feet for more thatn 20 minutes in a day (which included bathroom breaks). So no sitting up on the couch either. As horrifyingly difficult it sounds, it is the only thing along with the cerclage that helped us keep the baby inside all the way to 39 weeks 5 days!

After crossing the big 28 week milestone, I slowly started spending 1 hr on my feet which included the bathroom breaks, bathing every other day and some time on the couch watching tv with DH. For the remaining pregnancy my cervix measure between 2.3 - 2.5cm. I was monitored once every two weeks with an ultrasound. A growth scan was performed once a month.

The cerclage was removed after I completed the 36th week, I started having contractions immediately but not intense enough to require action. I had contractions all the way to 39th week and was dilated a good 4 cm when I was finally admitted, I had a baby boy, normal delivery, no meds, no pain killers.

I am thankful for the support and information I received on share and thankful for all the prayers too.

I pray and hope that your good news arrives soon, your cerclage is fit in and everything progresses smoothly.

It is challenging on bedrest, but not impossible. The prize at the end of this challenge absolutely worth it.

With some positive attitude and good bedrest you can do a lot..... i wish you a succesful pregnancy. Focus one week at a time and you will find that time passes faster.

Sanj.

I lost both of my sons after going into preterm labor with no indications...my first loss this past March my water broke at home while sitting down doing absolutely nothing...I was 22 wks and 4 days along with my baby boy Ayden...my Ob's didn't really know what to make of it since I'm a pretty healthy 28 yr old woman. My partner and I decided to start trying again soon after and got pregnant 3 months later...this last pregnancy was also coming along well no indications of any problems...until Sunday Novemver 1, 2009 while I was in the shower I felt a bulge in my vagina...I called my OB's office right away and she advised me to head to the hospital cause she could not determine what was happening...In the hospital both residents that examined me gave me the worst news of my life for the second time in eight months...my cervix had dialated to 4 cm and the bag of membranes was beginning to portrude through the cervix, they told me that it would eventually rupture and that I would again deliver a premature baby (I was 20 weeks and 2 days into this pregnancy) after hours of agony and prayer I delivered my baby prematurely...and I now have two babies in heaven....My Ob now assures me that I have an incompetent cervix and that Next Time she will perform a cervical cerclage...I am in such agony with this second loss that I don't know how I will bounce back...............

I am so sorry for your losses. Two in such a short span is more than any mother should have to bear. Try to be easy on yourself. I hope that you can find healing and comfort soon and many mothers have found some here at Share. Remember that each day all you have to do is breathe. Many people have found comfort in blogging, posting, group and personal therapy, family, or pastoral counseling.
I hope today is a little better than yesterday. You and your children are in my thoughts and prayers.

Take care,
Ellen

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious babies. I am thinking of you, your angels and family as you try to piece together and move forward.

Warmly,
Kristyn

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious babies. No parents heart should have to endure the pain of one loss let alone two. Please be gentle with yourself and take it one day at a time.

Take good care,
yolonda

To: Peasinapod and Grace's Mom

Ladies, thank you soo much for your words of encouragement, I feel very alone and helpless in this situation becuase no one I know has gone through losing two children and I know it's hard for my family and friends because they do not know what to say or how to approach me, so some just stay away all together

I'm so sorry about your losses, I wouldn't want anyone to go through the pain that we have all here been through. I also lost my son (first pregnancy after infertility pills) this past July 2009 due to an Incompetent Cervix at 22 weeks. By a blessing I concieved naturally the following month in August and now im going strong at 14 weeks. I just had a cerclage placed in 2 days ago so now I just continue to pray that the stich will hold and hoefully I'll deliver a healthy baby in May 2010. Good Luck to you all...

Wishing you the best on this pregnancy. I'm very sorry for the loss of your first child.

Please feel free to join the thread for expecting moms to help you find support throught these next few months. It has made life for many of us here on Share much easier...knowing there are others like you can be cathardic.

Wishing you the best,
Kristyn

I have just lost my second baby, a little girl at just 21 weeks pregnant. Things seemed to be going well and then i started loosing a lot of mucous but thought it was due to developing in my pregnancy. I then went for a regular appointment at hospital and they said my cervix was 2cm dilated so they admitted me but it was too late as i started having contractions and lost my daughter 12.5 hours later. my husband and I do not know how to come to terms with our loss and only buried our daughter yesterday but we lost our son at 14 weeks on the 3rd of March can someone please reassure me that if I have the cervical stitch we will have a healthy baby. I would spend 9 months on bed rest if I need to this means the world to us both.

We still have hope that although this year hasnt been a good year for us both that next year will be.
 

Hi and Welcome to Share. Although no one can make an guarantees, cerclages are generally quite successful. I know many women on here that have had them and gone on to have full term or nearly full term babies. Kristyn (above) is one of those ladies and she's on her 3rd pregnancy with a cerclage (rather, I believe she will be getting it shortly).

I had a cerclage in my 2nd pregnancy (my 1st pregnancy gave me my daughter at 25 weeks due to either IC or PTL). I also received 17P shots and thankfully carried my son to 38.5 weeks.

So don't hesitate to do the cerclage if your OB suggests it. I hope that next year is much better for you as well.

-Jackie

Hi Jackie

Thank you so much for your reassurance it is reassuring. I have a lot of faith in the team who looked after me in my first two pregnancies although unfortunately my husband and I lost them both. Unfortunately with our first baby George I had a few complications at the beginning from about 8 weeks with alot of bleeding but with our daughter Emma everything seemed so perfect which is why it is so difficult to come to terms with. Its also hard because you think when every week goes by you could have been further along in your pregnancy if everything had worked out. Its very hard and I blame myself as my body wasnt strong enough. My husband and I are seeing our Consultants next Wednesday for the results of loosing our baby. I truly hope they are able to use the stitch method and it helps. Having buried both our son and daughter within 8 months is the hardest thing I have ever had to do and it makes me so sad to put my husband and my family though this. I truly hope we are blessed with a beautiful baby next year.

Thank you again for your response and its nice to be in touch with people in the same position. I find it difficult as the professionals dont always understand as they havent been through it its different when your on the receiving end of tragedy.

I have just joined this site and have read your story. I am so very sorry for your losses and can fully understand what you are feeling as I too have lost two babies this year my first, our son George on the 3rd March and our daughter Emma on 28 October. I understand people tend to stay away as they just dont know what to say and its hard for them to understand because of course they cannot. My husband and I would more than anything love to have a baby we have so much love to give and would do anything for the chance. Its hard too see pregnant ladies walking around because you are so happy for them but sad at the same time. I am not working at the moment due to what has happened and finding it very difficult to know what to do with myself. You are not alone and I hope I can offer you some support at this difficult time if I can help you it will make me feel I am making positive steps. I truly believe things will be ok and although difficult I am trying to be positive.

I am so sorry for the losses of your precious son and daughter.

I am the person Jackie was speaking of...I had a preemie (almost 32 weeker) and it was deemed unkown or possible infection. When we got pregnant with number two I was told I would be treated as a normal pregnancy. I was very achy from the beginning (which is normal), but it never went away. By 12 weeks I had spotting and a lot of mucous, which I was told was just fine. By 14 weeks the spotting had become red and I knew soemthing was wrong. My OB ordered an u/s for the next morning and we found I was funneling. I was scheduled for a cerclage that afternoon (I was about a cm dilated). I was petrified and had only found stories of more loss on the internet. I got the cerclage and remained on bedrest for 6 months. That is how I found Share and I found many friends that were facing the same situations I was. It was cathardic and fun at the same time to be here. My cerclage was removed at 37 weeks 5 days and my son was born the next day. For my third pregnancy I had a cerclage at 13 weeks and never went on bedrest. I had some problems with contractions around 33 weeks. I had my cerclage removed a bit early because I had so many contractions. She still stayed put for a whole week! I will be getting my cerclage in a week and a half...I am still nervous, but I trust it will work again. The procedure is a risk and my OB always prescribes me an antibiotic just due to the fact that we truly don't know what caused my preemie birth. I am on bedrest for 24 to 48 hours after depending on how I feel and then I'm on normal activities. This isn't really normal...I take it very easy. I sit while cooking and folding laundry. I don't take my other kids to the store unless I HAVE TO...there is no guarantee, but I know many woman that have had success with it.
I hope this helps...and I wish you the best.
Kristyn

Hi Kristyn

Thank you so much for replying to my message and for reading my story. You do give me hope and I truly hope your stitch goes well this time. My husband and I are hoping to start trying in either January or February next year to give my body a rest. I am quite a complicated person as I have had a kidney transplant and I am a diabetic too which makes me a high risk patient. My husband and I are truly hopeful next year will be a better one and I hope that when we see our Consultants next week they will be very positive and can offer the clertage for me.

I hope you get on alright and I will keep my fingers crossed for you too.

Regards
Becki