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Dont know if i can handle another loss.

Lizzy - 12:50am Nov 6, 2009 EST

Maybe some of you have read my journal on here? If not heres an update. When i was 17 i had my first child, a daughter. Skylar was born in 2000. No complacations at all. We tried for years to get pregnant again. 6 actually. Then i found out i had cysts on my ovaries and had my right ovary removed. That must have cleard the way because my surgery was in January 2006 and i was pregnant 8 months later! I was due June 2007 and we were so happy. New years day out of the blue my water broke. By January 8th 2007 i was in labor. My son Caden was born at 16 weeks. He weighed only 7 ounces. He was so tiny but perfect. My doctor said it was a fluke. They didnt know why it happened. We were heartbroken! (Still are.) When we were ready we started trying again. I found out June 25th 2009 that was newly pregnant. Was given an early March due date. July 12th i woke up bleeding. I went to the er. My Hcg levels were down to 44.. i misscarried.

I can not even begin to say how devistated i was.. am. Im 27. My first child is well on her way to turning 10. Should i even try again? Could i handle another loss? I really want more children. 1 or 2 more.. But should i put my family through that? I really need some advic or just guidence. Please..

Jackie G - Nov 6, 2009 6:53 am (#1 Total: 6)

Mom to Kimberly (25 wkr, now 6 yrs!) & Matthew (38.5 wkr, almost 4 yrs!)

I do remember your story and the heartbreak you had when Caden was lost.

And I am so sorry that you recently had a miscarriage - that's just not fair! One parent should not have to deal with that much pain.

Wow, I wish I had some good advice, but I'm afraid I don't. What does your dr say? Do they believe the miscarriage was a fluke or are you at higher risk of having another one?

That to me would be the main question. If they believe Caden's early birth was a fluke than they don't have a specific reason to believe you can't carry to term. And they will watch you closer, as you will watch yourself closer too. If something happens, everyone will be more prepared to act quickly and try to stop it. So unless they have a medical reason as to why you miscarried then hopefully that was a fluke as well. Doesn't necessarily give you the warm fuzzy answer you want, but it might point you in the right direction.

I wish you the best of luck in your decision, it definitely is a hard one.

Hugs,
Jackie

Angel Love - Nov 8, 2009 6:23 pm (#2 Total: 6)

I think that this is a very personal decision for you and your hubby to make. I'm sure it's hard to go through these decision making times. You might want to talk with a perinatologist before trying again and seeing if there are things that they can suggest for a healthy pregnancy this time. Best wishes to you...

Tracy

Lizzy - Nov 10, 2009 4:05 am (#3 Total: 6)

My dr did say losing Caden was a fluke. But my miscarrige.. my new dr said my blood sugar was kind high. That she wasnt saying im diabetic but that if i am that could be why. So right now i am sugar free and dieting. If that doesnt help then i will be put on pills. In my heart i know i want more children. My husband does, and Skylars tells me all the time she wants a sister. I just worry so much. And it is a lot of pressure to even get pregnant. It really takes me a long time. And with everyone hoping its just stressful sometimes.

Thank you for taking the time to comment!

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Jackie G (Nov 10, 2009 5:39 am)

Jackie G - Nov 10, 2009 5:39 am (#4 Total: 6)

Mom to Kimberly (25 wkr, now 6 yrs!) & Matthew (38.5 wkr, almost 4 yrs!)

Replying to: Lizzy (Nov 10, 2009 4:05 am)

My dr did say losing Caden was a fluke. But my miscarrige.. my new dr said my blood sugar was...

Re: Dont know if i can handle another loss.

I am diabetic so I know the concerns that go along with it. Here are my suggestions:

1) Sugar isn't the only culprit that causes your blood glucose to rise. Anything with carbs can be an issues. So if you are not medicating, try to reduce your carb intake as well (particularly the white breads/pastas which spike your sugar quickly)

2) If you can't control it with diet and exercise, talk to your dr about insulin. I know that is not the first choice for ANYONE but it is much more tested in pregnancy than the pills. Some of the pills can have serious side effects in the baby and I was told I could not be on them while pregnant. (That was before it was determined I was type 1 and HAD to have insulin). The shots are not that bad at all because they are given with a tiny needle - I take 4 shots a day and had 2 pregnancies that were not effected by my diabetes because I was in such good control.

Good Luck!
Jackie

reneed - Nov 17, 2009 8:51 am (#5 Total: 6)

I can understand your pain. I lost my precious little girl at 22 weeks May 2, 2009. I got pregnant again in June and miscarried in July at five and a half weeks. I got pregnant again this month and was just told I will be miscarrying again. I am sad and frustrated because there was nothing wrong with my first pregnancy and it was my incompetent cervix that caused me to go into labor. Although I am sad and scared I know my husband and I will try again. I have known people who have gone through a few miscarriages before having a healthy baby. Overall though you and your husband need to decide and be ready for whatever may come. Wishing you the best!

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Pain and then Joy (Jan 7, 2010 9:20 pm)

Pain and then Joy - Jan 7, 2010 9:20 pm (#6 Total: 6)

Replying to: reneed (Nov 17, 2009 8:51 am)

I can understand your pain. I lost my precious little girl at 22 weeks May 2, 2009. I got...

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Oh my! Are you ok? Are you still pregnant? As I say in all of my blogs I definitely know your pain. I had a baby girl at 23 weeks. She survived for 5 months and then passed away from a blood transfusion. i got preganant a month later and I just lost my son on Tuesday Jan 5th. I was 19 weeks and my body failed with a cerclage and an emergency cerclage.

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