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Danyell22 - 12:04pm Nov 14, 2009 EST

Hi, I am new to this site and wanted to share my little story.. I have been married for 8 years, I was married at 20 so my hubby and I wanted to wait before we started having children, finish school, careers, etc. at 27 I got pregnant with my first child, it was a little girl my hubby and I were very excited about her.. However, at almost 17 weeks I lost her I did not even realize my cervix had dilated no pain, contractions or anything.. My Ob could not give me any real answers as to why this had occurred needless to say, my hubby and I was so very hurt over this and I am still not over losing her.. I lost her Jan 28, 2009.. Fast forward, I became pregnant again in July 2009, I am not 17 weeks pregnant, however last week I begin having these weird pains and sort of burning in my lower abdomen, and because of what I been through prior I decided to check my cervix it felt like there was an additional bump it felt nothing like my cervix so I went to the hospital.. My hubby said I was just worrying to much but, I went anyway, the doc did and exam and said my membranes were buldging down into my cervix.. I had an emergency cerclage put it, they did not have to push my membrans back in, as my bladder was full and the bag naturally went up.. It has been a week since my surgery, and my stitch was checked yesterday and my doc said he is very happy with the way things look.. I am now on modified bedrest and very scared of losing another baby, this one is a boy! I should mention.. I just want everything to be okay, and this bedrest is no walk in the park.. My due date is April 25, 2010 but, I would even be happy to make it to a viability point.. anyone have success stories with something of this nature I would love to hear.. And congrats to all the future mommies..

Akeelah's Mommy - Nov 14, 2009 1:34 pm (#1 Total: 6)

A moment in our arms, a lifetime in our hearts.

Welcome to Share. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter. My heart aches with you. I am sure she is looking out for you and her little brother.

I'm thankful to hear that your cerclage is holding up so to speak. There are lots of mommies here that have spent many months on bedrest and I'm sure they will chime in as well.

In the meantime, you might also want to check out the Pregnancy threads, they are a good place to hang out during all those bedrest hours!!

Parent to Parent

Take good care,
Lauren

Angel Love - Nov 15, 2009 11:26 am (#2 Total: 6)

Welcome to Share!! I'm so sorry to hear of your loss of your daughter, but wanted to congratulate you on this precious little boy who is growing inside. I know that you're anxious of all that can happen. Let your dr. know of any concerns no matter how little it is...that's how they can keep a closer eye on the situation. Like Lauren said, there are other girls who are preggo and waiting just like you in the Parent to Parent section. Bedrest is not easy nor is it fun, but it's so worth it in the end. Others there have been in your shoes and are here to encourage you! Keep us posted....

Tracy

Briar/Kinlee's_mommy - Nov 20, 2009 7:56 am (#3 Total: 6)

I love and miss you girls!

i am in a similiar situation

too lost a baby last year. we had twin girls and i my cervix also started to dialte w/o me knowing. when we found out i was already 8-9cmm dialatyed and twin a membranes were buldging and they couldn't do an emergency cerclege. we ended up delievering our beautiful girls 6 days later. we are pregnant again and due on jan 25th. we were proactive and had a cerclege put in at 13 weeks and all looked good until week 22. my cervix was funneling above the stich but thankfully the sticth was holding tight. i have been on bedrest at home since then. i can get up to pee, shower every othr day, and quick meals. it hasn't been easy but i will tell you that it IS POSSIBLE!!! i too just wanted to get to 24 weeks...just to give our baby a chance. each new day is a blessing and you can do it!!! i go in weekly for ultrasound checks and weekly p17 shot. if your dr hasn't talked to you about it, ask. good luck!!!

mommy of 2 angels twins one lost at 8 weeks the 2nd born at 17 weeks gestation - Nov 20, 2009 8:31 pm (#4 Total: 6)

same

I also lost my first daughter at 17 weeks due to a weak cervix she was a twin i lost the first one at 8 weeks...I have gotten pregnant about a yr later (all of them through IVF) and had to get a cerclage at 17 weeks was put on modified bestrest until 24 i was hospitalized on total bedrest and I made it to 27w6d my daughter is now a thriving very busy 14 month old who is doing very well...good luck

jeanelle ward - Nov 23, 2009 4:50 am (#5 Total: 6)

I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. I LOST MY DAUGHTER MARCH OF 2009. I AM PREGNANT AGAIN WITH A BOY TOO!! I HAD MY CERCLAGE DONE AT 13 WEEKS AND SO FAR SO GOOD. I AM 22 WEEKS NOW AND STILL VERY NERVOUS ABOUT EVERYTHING... GOOD LUCK

charming82 - Dec 1, 2009 9:09 pm (#6 Total: 6)

Replying to danelly22

sorry about the lost of your unborn child me myself have had 4 miscarriages and now i am 18wks3days and i had my cerclage done 2wks ago and now that it have happen i have been resting and taking it easy so i do not know what i am havin but i wil love to share my baby gender to all of you all so may god bless all of us

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