Christmas Cards
sam712 - 06:32am Nov 24, 2009 ESTI went into unexplained preterm labor at 24 weeks and gave birth to a 1 lb 8 oz son. Sam lived for 9 days in a NICU and died on July 21, 2009. He was an amazing little boy and has forever changed our lives. One week and one day after my son died in our arms, my dog died in our arms. July pretty much sucked.
Now I am faced with the holiday season and don't really know what to do. I would like to send X-mas cards, in part to let people know we are coping and to thank everyone for their kindness over the past few months, but I don't know what to say. I've always sent newsy little notes about what happened in the last year. However, I don't think anyone really wants to read about my dead baby at Christmastime and a simple "Happy Holidays" just seems off. Any thoughts on how to send holiday greetings after the death of a baby? I have no idea why this is important to me, but it feels like something I have to do in order to maintain some sanity this holiday season. All advice is welcome.
-Sam's Mom
Akeelah's Mommy
- Nov 24, 2009 9:20 am
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A moment in our arms, a lifetime in our hearts. |
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Welcome to Share. Our daughter and dog passed away in the same year and we also felt a loss when it came to holiday cards. We had always done photo cards. We chose to celebrate both their lives in the card and had pictures of both with us. We said something about being graced by both their presences in 2008. It was very peaceful, neither happy nor sad, just our truth.
I hope you find a way to include both your son and dog in a way that brings you peace,
Lauren
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Grace's Mom
- Nov 25, 2009 7:56 am
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^i^D'Lon Grace^i^ ~ Forever 3 ~ Missing you every second of every day! |
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Hello and welcome to Share. I am so sorry for your losses. I would like to commend both you and Lauren for you courage in continuing your Christmas card tradition. I was unable to do so last year after my 3 year old daughter passed away suddenly in September 08. This year however, I have put together an email message and attached a family photo that my husband created and will be sending out a mass email about 2 weeks before Christmas. That's the best I can do for right now and writing the update gave me such a great feeling of peace.
I hope you will figure out a way to incorporate both of your losses and find peace while doing so.
Take good care,
Yolonda
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Jackie G
- Nov 25, 2009 3:21 pm
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Mom to Kimberly (25 wkr, now 6 yrs!) & Matthew (38.5 wkr, almost 4 yrs!) |
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I think the ladies above gave some great ideas - I'm just sorry you all have experience in this.  The only other thought (if you haven't bought cards already) is to buy some of the March of Dimes ones and then make a comment about how you bought the cards in honor of your son and in support of the March of Dimes who is working to make all babies be born healthy. MOD cards Could be a little cheesy, but it might have a good supportive sentiment to it.
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Angel Love
- Nov 25, 2009 6:19 pm
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I think Jackie had a great idea....one that I'd not thought of before! I too have lost a child and when we send pics out for the holidays or sign cards, we always include a drawing or sticker of a butterfly. We use a simple butterfly poem to remember our daughter and friends and family recognized that as a symbol of our love for her! Best wishes as you go through the holiday season.
Tracy 
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