Next Pregnancy Experiences After Loss

Thank you, I am so sorry to hear about your loss as well.

Yeah, sometimes I feel like now the Doctors don't always know what they are doing. They can give recommendations, but even if you follow all of them things don't turn out how they are supposed to....obviously I guess if you look at how many moms have to come to this site. Yeah, I continued taking my prenatal vitamins as well. I was anemic before birth, and really anemic after (though not enough for a transfusion) but my levels have already jumped back up to normal.

We are officially TTC now, so scary and exciting at the same time!! Sending baby dust your way when you feel you are ready!

Stacy,
Congrats on TTC and I wish you all of the best.

Kristyn

Stacy, I was worried too that I had IC because I was 4cm dilated when they noticed the problem, but hadn't been having regular, painful contractions. I did have some cramping (which I now know is considered as contractions) and unusual discharge, which I had checked out the day before by the wrong doctor, and I know now was probably the cervical plug. My doctor said that it was PTL, not IC because I started having painful contractions shortly after the dilation began. If you have IC, I was told, the contractions aren't painful and feel like Braxton-Hicks. They don't become full-on "labor." Even though she feels that's the case, I am going to demand a cerclage and she has already recommended the P17 injections.

I go tomorrow for my first bloodwork and u/s appt since starting the meds last week. I hope to see lots of follicles!

Yeah, that's what my docs were going with too. Though mine felt like Braxton Hicks with maybe a little more discharge than normal for three days and they didn't get to really feeling crampy until that last day, so I dunno! I'm not too sure what I'm going to do, it's all so confusing! They're going to check my cervix weekly starting at 16 weeks, though I may request sooner if I don't get a cerclage. They also are saying P17 shots as well starting at 14 weeks!

Yay!! When is your appointment? If you get a chance send me a message to let me know! Crossing all crossables for lots and lots of follicles!!

Stacy-I too lost my twins, Jay and Morgan in February. They were born 3 days apart and I was almost 6 months. My docs have had the debate between IC and PTL and I agree, it is all very confusing. At my appt. a couple days ago we discussed what would happen next time and the plan was a cerclage early, p17 shots and perhaps a form of bedrest. They also said they would be watching me very closely as well. I can't answer your questions because I am not pregnant yet, but wanted to let you know I can relate to your diagnosis. Take care!

I have just lost my twins a boy and a girl. Our little boy had a brain defect that we found out at 19 weeks that he probably would not make it. So we sad to say but we kinda greived him before he was born but we never imagined in a million years lossing her! We were thinking the worst but prying the best when it came to our lil Noah. Our Nursey was almost set with 2 of everthing already when we got the news. They were born at 31wks and 4dys and Sidney lived in the NICU for 32days. She fought all she could but she ended up getting NEC and passed 3 days later after 2 surgeries.
Our hearts are so broken and we are just lost! I personally dont think that I will ever heal howver I would like to have another child. I had my dreams in the palm of my had and lost them. We just got more bad news after more bad news. I am so scared for this pregnancy but I am going to ask a ton of questions and I am talking with neuonatologist and going to see what I can do about getting extra and early ultra sounds. I actually went to the doc today and got the go ahead to try again although we just lost Sid Marh 13th we are going to wait a few months.
I am new to this site and not quite sure how to use it yet but I am very interested in keeping in touch with you. Please e-mail me anytime catgirl_34@yahoo.com

Jay and Morgan's mom: I'm so sorry to hear about Morgan and Jay, I think I remember seeing your short story. Yep, that sounds familiar. The plan for me is the P17 shots starting at 14 weeks, and cervical length checks starting at 16 weeks until I'm further along. They may want to stop at 24 weeks, but I'm going to push them for 28 weeks since we don't have a NICU in the local area. They can deal with preemies, they're just not experienced with it so I'd rather not risk it. Thanks for popping in!!

Noah and Sidney's mom: I'm so sorry to hear of your loss of your sweet babies. That must have been heart wrenching to know you were going to lose your little boy while still having hope for your little girl. Sidney sure sounds like a little fighter. You know one of my closest angel mommy friends has a great title to her blog: "living with loss: a journey to deal not to heal" it says it so well. She lost her twin boys about three weeks after I lost my girls and we were due about two weeks apart. Take your time with trying again, you and only you will know when you are ready, it will just feel right. For us it was right as soon as we got clearance, but for others it can be months or even years, but you will know. My first three cycles of trying I was somewhat stressed, but I'm a little more relaxed this time. I know now I will be happy when I get pregnant, a little scared but so happy. I was worried I would be more scared than happy at first, now I don't feel like I will.

You've definitely found a wonderful place to come, this site is amazing! Ok, you can start a blog if you'd like, after you write your first one you just have to go find it again on the list to write another entry. I see you've already found the short story section as well as the parent to parent section. There is a great thread under that. There's a section for "families who have lost a baby" where you can go post things that other people who have lost babies can respond, the great thread is "living a new normal" it's a great place to go to "chat" with other angel mommies and get support. I hope you are able to find as much support as I have here!