Need support help...

I have heard so many people say "time". As much as I hated and still do hate it because I am such an impaitent person. Time is the one thing that will eventually show us all how to deal .
 One day can be the total oppisite from the last. One minute can be different from the last. One day at a time, one moment at a time.
  Another wonderful site is www.dailystrength.com
 there are alot of groups to join and a lot of people with good advice and they all have been there.
 I lost my baby girl Dec 31, 2009. It is still fresh but a tiny bit eaiser.

I am also looking into counseling after losing my twin girls Emilyn and Hailey at 20 weeks and 4 days along on this past November 30th. I don't think I really have much of a choice as to who I go to, the military kind of tells me who, though I really doubt there is someone who specializes in perinatal loss on Guam. I've only been to see her three times, so we will see what happens. I honestly think that my best coping mechanism is blogging on Share right now. It is so helpful to be able to get feedback from other moms who have gone through what we are going through and to be able to feel like I am maybe helping someone else out in a rough time.

Ethans parents: I'm sorry that you feel that not enough was done for your precious little boy. I know I had messaged with you before about my little girls and preferring that the doctors do nothing for them. While I would do anything for my daughters, the decision to not fight them to do anything was the right one....in my case. But I do understand your frustration with their refusal to even try. My reasoning for our decision is because we live on a tiny island in the middle of the Pacific, and there just isn't the resources here that are on the mainland. There is no NICU at the hospital period. So they would be doing more harm than good trying to do anything to help them. Though in saying that, I am constantly thinking of the "what ifs". What if I had been sateside, what if I had been at a state of the art facility, what if I had been seen by a perinatologist, would I still have lost my whole world, my little girls? I am glad that you feel you have the freedom to express your feelings and talk about your son, talking about my girls is my passion and it is so nice just to be able to say their names, even if I can't see them, hold them, or love on them. I find that trying to keep myself busy helps too, and though I don't cry everyday now I think about them constantly.

AYJ: I'm going to give you some advice that I was given a couple of weeks ago, and I hope it helps. Don't concentrate on forever, concentrate on right now. Concentrate on one breath at a time. When you start thinking long term is when things really start to spin out of control and you lose it, at least for me that is true. When you concentrate on surviving just the next second or minute, it somehow seems a little more doable.

I'll be thinking about both of you!