What has helped you make it through?

Hey Stacy! Thanks for starting this... what a great topic!

No problem! It's what happens when I get bored, random thoughts run through my head and they usually end up online somewhere .

Well of course Share and ShareUnion makes the top of my list!

What I have found most helpful is doing things in honor of my little girl. Getting a team together for the March for Babies was extremely healing and we're excited to already have our team ready to walk this year.

We also planted a garden for her and in general took more time for ourselves as a couple. When a little one passes away you're forced to recognize how important each lil' moment is. When I am consciously enjoying life I feel very close to Akeelah because it's a gift she gave me.

I also got the idea from a wonderful Share mom to buy flowers every 27th of the month. It gives me something to look forward to doing and brings a lil' more beauty into our lives, just like our lil' girl did.

Great topic Stacy! Always good to get ideas from other mommies!

Oh, I love the idea of flowers every month! We may have to start up that tradition as well.....though maybe next month, there's no 30th to this month . Of course Share is at the top of my list thus far too, and I'm sure ShareUnion will be at the top of my list later this year!

This might sound weird but it is what kept me going.

When we knew that Nolan was dying, we made a promise to him that we would make him some brothers or sisters.

That is what kept me going. It still keeps me going, especially that I kept my promise to him.

Lisa

No, I don't think it sounds weird at all. It is a sweet promise, and I'm glad you were able to keep it.

Share and ShareUnion has helped me the most. I am so grateful for Kate encouraging me to start a blog. I never knew how healing blogging can be. Its just something about sharing my heart of hearts with the world. I know that probably sounds a bit crazy.

I really dont know what I would have done without this place.

Also my friendships with other angelmoms. Although I wish none of us shared the common bond of losing a child, but I am so happy to have people in my life that understands the pain without my even having to explain it

Thanks Stacy for starting this topic.

Yolonda

This website has been extremely helpful over the past year and two months. Also, this year I am doing the March of Dimes walk in April to honor my angels. My family is coming together and it feels good to have some contol over something.

I just found out about this Parent to Parent section on Share - and so glad I did. Doing a blog has been so helpful for me. It's so wonderful to write my feelings and then see the loving and affirming comments that people write.

Talking about Marco also helps me. There's a local MIS support group that I go to on the 2nd Thursday of every month. It was cancelled tonight due to the crazy amount of snow we have in my area (DC area), so I'm kind of bummed - I was really looking forward to going.

Reading other angel mommy blogs help me too - it's sad that there are other people who have lost a baby - but comforting to know that I am not alone. I love reading someone elses blog and thinking "I feel that way too"!

Thinking about having another baby helps too in that it gives me hope, although I'm somewhat obsessed with it - so I don't know if that's good. I just hope that I am blessed enough to have a baby in the near future.

Libby

Blogging is very healing for me as well! It helps me to process everything going on in my head, and sometimes go back and look at it and come back with answers to the problems. Thank you for sharing what has helped you with us!
Stacy

Awesome! I love it when family comes together for one another! I keep trying to get together stuff to organize a team, but I can't seem to focus long enough to get it done! It's kind of hard also being so far away from most of the people that would be walking for my girls to organize them in something that resembles a tema. I would love to organize something small on Guam that I can participate in since there isn't anything here, but I'm not sure how! Thank you for sharing!
Stacy

I'm glad you found it too Libby! I love blogging too, it helps so much! Bummer! I agree with you completely about being glad that I'm not alone, but at the same time feeling really bad that anyone else has to go through this for me to feel that way. Sending you lost of baby dust when you want it!
Stacy