Frustrated...

It's sad to say that you are right, no one seems to have that much info about Infant loss. It seems the subject is taboo which is just depressing.

A friend of mine who lost twins a number of years ago has highly recommended this website to a number of people. I honestly can't say I've spent time on it, but figured I would pass it along:

National Share: Pregnancy and Infant loss support

Hugs,
Jackie

My daughter Olive Hope, was born at 28 weeks, and lived for four months before passing away January 22, 2010. She had a grade four brain bleed that resulted in hydrocephalus. Her shunt surgery resulted in meningitis that took her life. I miss her every day. Have you read the book, "Tear Soup?" I just read it and loved it. It's short but talks a lot about taking the time to grieve that you need to, about people's expectations of you, and about finding those close friends to walk this journey with you...at your own pace. I've been blogging...rustylynette.blogspot.com and have been reading this blog of a women who lost her firstborn as well...http://thespohrsaremultiplying.com. Her daughter died last April of 2009 and if you go to the blog archives I found it helpful to read posts of another grieving mother.

You are so right about nothing being able to end the unbearable pain. I went to group, private therapy sessions, and church and was really dissappointed in each venue. Then it hit me, there is no quick fix. There is no one place or no one thing that is going to fix it. I have to go through it and learn to live my life with this affliction.

I certainly hope that you find what you are looking for, but until then, please know that we are all here for you!

Take good care,
Yolonda

There is no quick fix or long term fix for the feelings from losing a child or children! Just know that there are many of us on this website and anything you say here is understood. In April I am doing the March of Dimes walk to honor my girls that I lost last year. This seems to be helping me knowing I have some control over doing something (raising the money and getting my family together to honor my angels). Give yourself time and cut yourself some slack. Sending you healing thoughts. Lisa

Its only been two weeks today since i loss my son EvanMichael he was born 1/26/2010 @ 30 wks weighing 1lb 3oz he lived for two days but on 1/28/2010 he had a pulmonary hemorrage caused from PDA and he passed. I didn't get the opportunity to feed him or just do the things that mother would for her child and I get frustrated with myself sometimes because I wonder did I visit him enough or did he even know I was there I wish I couldve had more time with him but I know everything happens for a reason and I'm relying on my faith in God to help me through this.

I'm so sorry about Evan. I think no matter what the situation is, you would still be wondering "what if". It's totally natural, but the what-ifs can drive you crazy. So try not to 2nd guess yourself too much.

I hope that Share can help bring you some peace. There are lots of moms here that have, unfortunately, walked in your shoes. They are a great source of support because they truly know how you feel.

Hugs,
Jackie

Welcome to share. I am so sorry about the passing of your son. People here have found this a good place to vent, cry, get comfort and chat. Other people find that all of this works best in conjunction with group therapy, therapy, pastoraling counseling and tlaking with friends. I hope that you find some friends and comfort here (I know I have) and that we see you around often.

Take care.
Ellen

Welcome to Share!

You are so not alone here!! There are too many of us who understand your heartache. Please know that any time you'd like to talk or vent your frustrations we're here to listen with understanding.

Tracy