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will i ever get pregnant again????????

shameka hodges - 11:45pm May 27, 2012 EST

on may the 10th i got a ultrasound and it said that ever thing was ok with my daughter she even was moving around alot and her heart beat was strong and i was happy to know that her due date was sept.5,2012....BUT...on may the 16 i went to go have a bm.. and went i reached down to wipe i felt my mucus pull hanging out i went to the hospital to see what they could do...i was hurting contractions was 3 to 2 mins apart they check her heart beat and it was 147bpm and she was moving fine and they checked me and said that it was just mucus and they alot of woman lose there mucus pull and still don't go into labor they said that i had a uti... or a bacteria infection from the week before so thats what was causing me pain in my abdomal they hook me up to the machine but it didn't say i was in labor and my temp was good and the baby was moving so they said that i needed to go home and lay down be cause i want in labor and dis was pain from the bacteria infection or if i had a uti they checked my urine but it came out clean to so they said go home and follow up with your doctor in the morn if not better i got up still in pain went to go to the bathroom and when i reach down i could feel the sack they had to delivery me right then i was scared my daughter lived on 13 mins she came feet first.. they said i have a incompatence cervix and thats what made me have here before her due date iam so lost and hurt and confuse i have to other children why didnt they diagnose dis when i was pregnant with them this would have been my third child iam so hurt will i ever get pregnant again they said i would need a stitch in my uterus to keep it close when i get pregnant agian but will i ever get pregnant agian i was 24 weeks just turn it and this happen to me why why?? what did i do wrong ???? i had a funeral for her and a burial to why me we except for our children to bury us not us having to funeralize them it hurts will i find comfort again i miss her so much and advice would be good if you to have been here before..

NathansMom13 - May 28, 2012 12:09 am (#1 Total: 9)

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Hi and welcome to Share. I am so very sorry for your loss. You should make an appt with your Dr to discuss your concerns about becoming pregnant again. As long as you haven't had a problem getting pregnant in the past your recently diagnosed incompetent cervix shouldn't change that, it does mean you will need good prenatal care though. Give yourself some time to grieve the loss of your child before you make any decisions. Good luck!
Laura

shameka hodges - May 28, 2012 12:15 am (#2 Total: 9)

thanks you keep me in your prayers

BarbaraJ - May 28, 2012 1:19 pm (#3 Total: 9)

I went through the same thing in Dec 2011 I have one child only and the second I had a healthy pregnancy then weird discharge and went to hospital when I seen blood. I was in labour for about 12 hours and had my baby boy he was not born alive he had already passed away. They said I had an incompetant cervix as well. They said its unusual to have one good pregnancy and then be diagnosed with this. I will have to be stitched next time as well. As time goes on you will realise it is possible to have another and the pain will get easier to deal with as time passes. Believe it or not my daughter is the one that gave me the strenth watching her loving her helped a great deal. I am thinking of you!!

Hunter and Randi's Mom - May 29, 2012 12:59 pm (#4 Total: 9)

I am so sorry for your loss. I gave birth at 26 weeks during my first pregnancy. My second pregnancy I had a stitch, progesterone shots and was on modified bed rest beginning at 24 weeks. I made it to full term. I would ask about seeing a high risk OB/GYN before trying to get pregnant again. I did that, and it gave me a lot of comfort knowing that I had a plan in place for my second pregnancy.
Thinking of you,
Marissa

KHolley - May 29, 2012 1:52 pm (#5 Total: 9)

Welcome to Share. I am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard not to blame yourself, but remember, this is not your fault. This is a great place to find others that understand.

Hugs,
Katie

ethan&casey's mom - Jun 1, 2012 2:06 am (#6 Total: 9)

mom to angels ethan and casey (3-7-07); daughters Kaelin Reese born happy and healthy on 3-10-09; and Kelsey Grace on 9/17/11

Hi there,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. this is the worst journey that a parent can face ... and i'm so sorry that you have to experience it.

It baffles me to no end that hospitals, doctors and nurses sometimes discount how we mom's feel and then something tragic happens because no one wanted to play it safe.

When you are ready -- emotionally and physically -- talk to a high-risk doctor before you get pregnant again. Have a plan in place -- and make sure that plan is followed to the T. I lost twin boys at March 2007 ... for unknown reasons. For my last two rainbow pregnancies -- I met with the MFM, established a plan with him that my regular OB followed to a T. I also did the 17P shots -- and will forever wonder if that would have made a difference with my sons.

Take your time to grieve and heal -- and check in often.

erin

Nyreetig - Jun 1, 2012 10:39 am (#7 Total: 9)

Sorry for ur loss. I lost my lil boy 4/24/12 at 6months. I miss him so much.

christianmyangel - Jun 1, 2012 6:18 pm (#8 Total: 9)

Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his Saints

sorry to hear about your loss, i lost my baby boy in Jan. this year, he was my first son and it hurts so much to not have him, it is very hard to accept the new reality because we never thought this would happen to us. i know i never imagined myself going thru this, the pain gets easier to deal with but you will never forget your little one no matter how many years pass by. i really hope you find peace in the middle of this storm, it is not easy, one can't understand, but now you have an angel that's looking down on you and your family. i'll keep you in my prayers and just be strong and patient, time will help you heal.

hugs,

Claudia

my - Jun 4, 2012 4:57 pm (#9 Total: 9)

sorry to hear your loss. But you dont have to get your uterus stitch. I was diagnos with a incomplete cervix at 20 weeks and dr already determine that my baby wasnt gonna make it. It's a false statement. Getting my uterus stitch was something I didnt wanted to do but to try to save the baby I decide to get it done and later I didnt get my uterus stitch. In fact I took medication to release the contraction and there was medication shot called "p17 shot" which it free if you qualify. So I took my medication and recieve the shot once a week. I make it to full term. It break my heart to know that I was gonna lose another baby early again cause of my cervix. Yes, you can get pregnant again and this time you can ask your dr to referred you to the high rise dr that works with pregnant work who have a complicated previous pregnancy. I wish you the best.

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