stacyat
- Jul 10, 2012 1:36 am
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Mom to Emilyn and Hailey (our 20 week angels) and Elim (our 38 week, full term miracle)! |
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Hello and welcome to Share! I'm so sorry that you're going through so much right now but am so glad that you have found Share. It is definitely a good place to go when you're feeling all alone in dealing with everything that comes along with having a micropreemie. I would love to hear more about your sweet Caleb when you feel up to it.
Many hugs to you and wishing you good moments and days.
Stacy
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liz loschinskey
- Jul 10, 2012 12:56 pm
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Hi and welcome to share!!
We can help!!! I too, had micro-preemies. 1 at 24wks and another at 25 wks. One at 15 ounces one at 17 ounces! We understand how you are feeling!!
Please keep coming back, keep updating! Ask questions, cry, laugh, tell your concerns, we can help!! We WILL help.
Please, please keep us updated on Caleb and yourself. I will keep you close in thoughts and prayers,
Love and Light,
Liz
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Calebs.Mommy
- Jul 10, 2012 10:16 pm
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 Thank you ladies I appreciate the support. Yes I am finding that this is is a big help for me at this time.
I will keep you updated on little Caleb. 
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Angel Love
- Jul 11, 2012 2:13 am
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I'm a micro-preemie momma too!! My daughter was a 27 weeker weighing in at 1 lb. 4 oz. Today, it's 9 years later and she's super smart, super strong, and an amazing little girl. I wish you the best at you journey through the uncertainties of early days. We're always here to listen! Tracy
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Calebs.Mommy
- Jul 12, 2012 2:32 am
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today I was with my Caleb and it hit me all of sudden how much I wish his dad would be in the picture right now. Or just beside me as we are on this difficult road. *he is aware of Caleb and his situation, he does call and txts wanting to know how he is coming along. I am glad he does that much on his own, but I need more support from him. AM I WRONG FOR THIS, WHEN HE HAS HIS OWN LIFE AND GIRLFRIEND, AM I GETTING IN THE WAY
[Last Editor: stacyat, Jul 12, 2012 3:43 am. Total Edits: 1]
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Emmadawn825
- Jul 12, 2012 2:45 am
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I had my daughter at 24 weeks and 4 days she only weighed 1 lb 6oz I'm also a single mother her father ran out when she was still in the NICU and was only 2 months old at the time. I've been there. I brought her home in December 2011 very scary might I add.....If you ever need anyone to talk to i'm here.
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stacyat
- Jul 12, 2012 3:50 am
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Mom to Emilyn and Hailey (our 20 week angels) and Elim (our 38 week, full term miracle)! |
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I'm so sorry that Caleb's father is not in the picture more than he is. It's so hard feeling like you're all alone dealing with something so traumatic for your little boy and yourself. Are there any support groups at the hospital that would let you feel a little more helped through all of this? Tons of hugs to you.
Sorry for the edit on your posting, I'm one of the volunteers that helps to run Share. There was a formatting issue for the site that I went in and fixed!
Stacy
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Jackie G
- Jul 14, 2012 12:36 pm
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Mom to a 25 weeker who is now 8 years old and a 38.5 weeker who is now 6 |
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Hi Caleb's Mommy -
I don't think it's wrong to want more from Caleb's Dad during such a difficult time. But if he's got another girlfriend, it might be hard to actually get it. The one thing you can do is be honest with him and ask him if he can be a little more supportive. At least then you'll know where he stands on the issue.
As Stacy and Liz said, we're here to support you and make sure you know you aren't alone. It's amazing how much of a difference that can make when you are scared and struggling.
Hugs,
Jackie
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Calebs.Mommy
- Jul 16, 2012 6:28 am
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oh thank you ladies Yeah there are some days that I want to just have him stop everything in his life and just be next to me as i sit at Caleb's bedside. I have my sister and mom but it not the same as having his dad there with me. But I know we will get past this and me and Caleb will be stronger in the end. Thanks again ladies' i am lookn into more support from the hospital. They all have been great with mee too.
[Last Editor: Jackie G, Aug 9, 2012 11:52 pm. Total Edits: 1]
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NathansMom13
- Jul 16, 2012 5:30 pm
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Come to ShareUnion 2012: It's the BEST weekend ever!!! |
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I'm so sorry you don't have the support that you need. We are all here for you. When my son was in the NICU Share was the only place I could go where other moms understood my feelings.
Laura
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Calebs.Mommy
- Aug 8, 2012 7:14 am
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just recently the father's family just found out about Caleb's birth they were all shocked that I was alone and how tiny he was. His dad didnt tell anyone in his family. Now the dad wants to be in the picture, i am just lost here. I think because his family will get on him for not being there for us, i dont want him forced in our Life. Is that wrong of me to think
[Last Editor: Jackie G, Aug 9, 2012 2:26 am. Total Edits: 2]
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liz loschinskey
- Aug 8, 2012 4:51 pm
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Ugh, such a tough situation.
My brain tells me father and family should be in the picture. My heart tells me, If you are forced to spend time with us by your family, I don't want you here.
Praying you find the right way,
Love and light,
Liz
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esgf
- Aug 8, 2012 5:53 pm
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Abigail's Mom (29 weeks, 3/21/05) |
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Calebs mommy,
Welcome to share and congratulations on Caleb's birth. I am sorry you are having such a tough time. If he wants to be around Caleb but you don't want to be around him maybe you can arrange to have him visit while you're not there or leave for a few moments when he's there. I don't know it is such a tough spot to put you in. For now, I would focus on Caleb and what is best for him. THe rest will work itself out later.
Take care and we would love to hear updates on Caleb.
Ellen
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Jackie G
- Aug 9, 2012 2:28 am
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Mom to a 25 weeker who is now 8 years old and a 38.5 weeker who is now 6 |
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While I don't know what Caleb's dad is thinking, is it possible his family just made him realize that as the father he should be more involved? I think it's fair to give him a chance to be there and be Caleb's dad - if he fails again, then shame on him, but at least you'll know his true motive.
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Calebs.Mommy
- Aug 9, 2012 3:47 am
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Yes! I think that is what his dad was afraid of when his family found out about Caleb. Cause they would make him go see Caleb at the hospital, have be there for me as I sat with Caleb each day. Plus Caleb is his 1st child and he doesn't know what to think or do cause we aren't together and I don't think we will ever be back together.
I am going to try and work his dad and see what happens from there, but I can only do so much when his dad is in prison. that is our situation. 
mysonnyCaleb
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NathansMom13
- Aug 9, 2012 6:41 pm
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Come to ShareUnion 2012: It's the BEST weekend ever!!! |
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It's a tough decision and an incredibly hard place to be put into. Maybe you should give him a chance to be involved, but that's just my opinion. Only you know what is best for your family. Good luck!
Laura
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liz loschinskey
- Aug 11, 2012 8:28 pm
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OOOOoooh Caleb, you are lookin' good, baby!
I love pics of tiny, tiny babies!
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Calebs.Mommy
- Aug 14, 2012 8:18 am
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 Thank you LIs. Yes he has came a long way and yet is doing so well I am so proud of him he is such a strong lil boy.
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Jackie G
- Aug 14, 2012 2:07 pm
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Mom to a 25 weeker who is now 8 years old and a 38.5 weeker who is now 6 |
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Calebs.Mommy
- Aug 28, 2012 7:15 pm
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I been trying to cope with everything on my own that is going on with my little family. I just feel so alone, lost and I am scared. Scared of failing my daughter & son. My daughter left a week ago to boarding school in California, I miss her so much. Then I have my precious baby Caleb who is doing so much on his own. I love him and want him home so much.
It has been harder now that I have broke out with a rash all over my body, so I can't be with him right now. It's hurts alot, cause I feel like I have abandoned him, it's been 5 days now. I miss him so much, I want to hold him, never let him go.
WHY IS IT SO HARD TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF WHEN YOUR IN THIS PRIEMEE WORLD? SHOULDN'T THAT BE SOMETHING THAT COMES NATURAL TO US MOTHERS? BUT ITS NOT EASY AT ALL! *i AM so lost here, but i am trying to cope.
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liz loschinskey
- Aug 29, 2012 2:14 am
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I remember those days. The nurses would look at me and say "liz, what the heck?" As i had hives every day for months. Hives the size of nickles and quarters. They itched and hurt so bad every day. Im pretty sure it was stress.
It will get better!
Love and light,
Liz
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Calebs.Mommy (Aug 29, 2012 4:59 am)
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Calebs.Mommy
- Aug 29, 2012 4:59 am
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Replying to:
liz loschinskey (Aug 29, 2012 2:14 am)
I remember those days. The nurses would look at me and say "liz, what the heck?" As i had...
Wow! I thought it was just me and the way my body was messing up on me. Wheewwww! Yeah these are real bad, all over my legs and arms in the past two days they are now on my back and stomach.
I am trying not to scratch them but I cant help it at all. Not only that I was worried cause I had mrsa a year ago. So I had them cultured also.
ahh! i feel so much better cause I thought it was me, I felt so bad like I was having poor hygiene lol
it surprised me that stress could even do that to someone. amazing...
Thanks Liz
mommy&Caleb
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liz loschinskey (Aug 29, 2012 8:32 pm)
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liz loschinskey
- Aug 29, 2012 8:32 pm
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Replying to:
Calebs.Mommy (Aug 29, 2012 4:59 am)
Wow! I thought it was just me and the way my body was messing up on me. Wheewwww! Yeah these...
Yup, Mine started about 5 days after she was born. It was the single worst thing that happened in my adult life(so far). I only left the house to go to the hospital. They looked like welts all over my body....my whole body. Once the palms of my hands started itching, I knew a break out was coming within 15 minutes. I tried to catch it with Benedryl, but even that didn't work, once they were hives. Ugh, my whole body would pulsate to my heartbeat. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I laugh about it now, but those nurses would always joke with me and make fun and laughter...in a good way....at my expense.
I had them a good 6-7 months.
Remember, it will get better,
Love and light,
Liz
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