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I lost my TripletsBrian_Brandon_Brenton - 05:38pm Oct 14, 2005 ESTHello, I am knew to this sight. My name is Alicia and I am dealing with the loss of my 21 week old triplets. Brandon, Brian and Brenton. When I was 20 weeks I was sitting on the couch with my two year old daughter, we were coloring in her favorite book. I remember sitting on the couch in my moms house when I all of the sudden felt something warm on my thigh, I pulled my skirt up a little bit and all I saw was blood. When I was 7 weeks I was bleeding and the doctors didnt know why, they treated it as a threatend misscarrage, which broke my heart, I still remember the day I went in to have my ultrasound, the doctor told me that he saw two babies, about a minute later he said three. I didnt know what I was going to do with three babies. I was a single mother of a 19 month old little girl and me and my boyfriend werent doing well. I must tell you all that I am only 19 and still living with my mom and sister, anyways I was freaked out by the fact that i was going to be the mother of four before I was even twenty years old. It scared the licing heck out of me, i didnt know what i was going to do, Mark, the father said I should get an abortion because we had enough to worry about, I just couldnt do it. The next topic was adoption, which in my family isnt really looked upon to greatly, and finally they said to keep them. Time went by and was still having lots of problems. I didnt know what to do. The doctors treated it as a threatend miscarrage. I was so upset that i couldnt even talk but everythink seemed to get better. I dont know what to do or say now that they are gone, I burried my babies on Thursday, October 6th, 2005. My boyfriend, their father wasnt even there, he says he wants nothing to do with me, they are burried in doll clothes, the lord took them before they even got here and i am trying to figure out why, why did he take my boys form me! If anyone can help please, just reply!! Thanx! Alicia Timberland
Sharlene+2
- Oct 14, 2005 6:09 pm
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Mom to Taylor (14) and ^George Daniel^ |
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Alicia,
I am so sorry for your losses of your sweet boys, Brandon, Brian and Brenton! My heart aches for you! I am so sorry that you feel alone. You are not alone. Many of us here at Share have been there. While I only lost one child, I can empathize with the pain you are feeling! Please lean on us here at Share, this site is full of wonderful, compassionate, and supportive parents! Talk to us when you need someone to listen, shout out through your words when you need relief, or just come in & sit & cry & we will cry with you & be there to pick you back up.
I do not know why these things happen, Alicia, but know that it was NOTHING you did!! You loved your boys with all your heart!
My heart goes out to you & Kayden as you figure out how to go on from here!
Hugs, hope, and healing sent to you!
Sharlene
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slhopkins
- Oct 14, 2005 8:52 pm
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sorry to hear
Alicia
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Like Sharlene said I only lost one so it has to be very hard. I know how you feel about thinking you are alone I felt that way to until I found the march of dimes website. It has hard dealing with my loss because I wanted a baby soo bad. Anyways I'm here for you if you need to talk email me sometime. blhopkins0803@yahoo.com
shenna
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CindyC
- Oct 14, 2005 10:03 pm
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I am so sorry for your losses. I want you to know that you are not alone, there are a lot of us here going through losses. It is very hard, but I think it helps to know you're not alone. I lost 2 of my triplets, and my surviving triplet, Brandon is in the nicu. It is a terrible pain we are going through. You are in my thoughts. Feel free to write if you need to talk
--Cindy
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Margarita
- Oct 15, 2005 12:47 am
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Your not alone
My husband and I have been asking God the same question. On July 26, 2005 I lost my baby at 22 weeks. This was my 4th miscarrage. The first was at 3 weeks, the second was at 13 weeks a boy, the 3 was at 17 weeks twins a boy and a girl, the most recent July 26, a boy. With this last one I was told on my first ultrasound that it was triplets than two weeks later when I got checked I was told there were 4 babies the next time I got checked I had lost 3. I was so hurt but I told myself to be strong for the one I did have inside. Then I lost him too. I've been told that I have a cervical incompentantce and preterm labor issues. I just had a abdominal cerclage had in the hopes that this next time I will be able to carry my baby. We still have to deal with the issue of preterm labor. Know anyone with these problems, please let me know. I still have hope. Hang in there. If any successful stories out there that have the same issues as me, e-mail me. alejos67@aol.com
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Kristin Prince
- Oct 15, 2005 3:19 am
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I'm so sorry
I was in tears reading your story. I'm also a mother that survived losing 2 of my triplets but not 3. It doesn't matter how old you are, you still hurt but I'm glad you have family support.
We are here if you need us. Again, I am so sorry!
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Acadia_Adoette
- Oct 17, 2005 4:41 pm
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Acadia_Adoette
- Oct 17, 2005 4:49 pm
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Searching For A Reason
:asleep:Alicia~
I know this is all really hard for you to do, I to lost three of my children, the first was Damien, he was a full term baby that died of SIDS his second night home, than there were teh twins, Acadia and Adoette, they were born at 24 weeks gest. Adoette lives to be 4 days old, and Acadia lived to be 5 days old, I will never forget holding them in my arms while they took their last breathes, what we dont understand is that we are mommy's of angels now who are looking down on us every minute of every day, I burried my babies earlier today, it was the hardest thing in the world, i dont know what is difficulter. I love my little boys and my daughter alike. I am 22 and already have burried three of my children, all I feel is pain, knowing that my husband wants a baby more than anything and I dont know if I can give him the healthy baby he wants. I love Phil but dont know if he truly loves me, I am so far from my family he is all i got, I dont know what to do anymore, i love him but he cant be there for me right now. Your in my prayers Kayden to, love and prayers
Kris
RIP ACADIA ADOETTE AND DAMIEN
also your angels
BRIAN BRENTON AND BRANDON 
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Melissa M.
- Oct 17, 2005 5:01 pm
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Mom of 25 weekers, Now Age 5 & 1.2 (3 surviving quads) |
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My heart is heavy for your tremendous loss of babies: Brandon, Brian and Brenton. I can only imagine the depth of emotion you feel surrounding such a horrific loss. It sounds like you already had much to worry about...and now this...*sigh* sometimes, life seems so incredibly unfair...
Too often I am seeing such profound losses on this site. Which means that those suffering this kind of loss are certainly large in number...are out there looking outside windows, trying to find a place where their pain and love can be understood, if not shared. SHARE is *that* kind of place. I am so sorry for what brought you here...but I am *so* happy that you *Did* find us.
We will envelope you in love, acceptance, and understanding. It may sound flippant ...but I (and many other SHARE parents) truly *do* feel saddened and heartbroken whenever we hear of a baby's death. Your babies' deaths are important to us. I hope you find peace and healing.
With Great Warmth,
Melissa
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CherryGirl8
- Oct 18, 2005 2:15 am
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Keep your head high
I am not going to say sorry because you have probably heard it enough and I know I would be like shut up but I just want you to get your head high and keep praying everyday. You have wonderful family it seems like and you will find a man that loves you. You are still young and just think of the beautiful child you have. Stay strong. If you need to talk you can e-mail me at DOOHDAAH8@hotmail.com
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Mom of Triplets
- Oct 18, 2005 5:48 pm
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I am so sorry
Alicia, I can not believe what I am reading. I am also 19 and I lost my triplets on June 1st of this year. I was 21 weeks 6 days into my pregnancy. At 9 1/2 weeks I was bleeding and it was recoreded as a threatened miscarriage. The father and I were not doing well. I never considered abortion but I seriously looked into adoption which always broke my heart to think about. I finally decided these are my babies and I love them, I want them. The father wasn't there when I had the babies, and we have talked maybe 2 or 3 times since it happend, he never asked about the babies, just asked how I was doing. I know exactly what you are going through so if you ever want to talk you can e-mail me at princessbeth18@hotmail.com
Beth
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fishergirls
- Oct 18, 2005 8:23 pm
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The Boys
Sweetheart do not make yourself feel as if it had anything to do with you. The lord has other plans for those three loving boys with him. I have lost a child before I felt the same way but my doctor told me that god has plans for all of us here and there. Those three little fellows are watching over you as you did for them while carry them. If you want to do something for them, each year on their anniversary light a candle, do balloons for each one, or just spend time and plant a flower for them at their grave and always remember to let that little girl know about them. I do that know with my twin that I lost sister, his older sister, and now with his baby sister.
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Momof34&36weekers
- Oct 19, 2005 12:10 am
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I'm not sure what to say.
Alicia,
I really am not sure what to say. I will pray for your comfort and peace. Those three beautiful little boys are being held in God's arms. I cannot imagine the heartache you are going through. I can only hope that someday when you are ready, God will help you find closure. You will find a wonderful man to love you and your little girl. The pain will never be gone, but the more you talk about it, the better you will feel. This will also keep the memory of your precious babies alive. God bless you and all of your children.
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Ashley'sMom 25w
- Oct 19, 2005 3:29 am
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I'm very sorry
Oh Alicia, I'm so sorry over your loss. I can't imagine the emptiness in your heart right now. The only advice that I can give is that God will give you only as much as you can handle and everyone has a purpose on this earth. We may never understand why these 3 precious little beings had to return to Heaven as angels but be rest assured that they are in a very safe place where they are not suffering. Love your little girl as much as you can. Try not to blame yourself for what has happened. The body is a miraculous creation and if something is not right with a pregnancy then most of the time it will fix the problem which unfortunately sometimes ends in miscarriage. Too many people take having a heathly pregnancy for granted. I hope that this has helped a little. Good luck and God Bless you and your little girl.
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Radhames
- Jun 4, 2007 10:37 pm
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Hi Alicia, I am sorry for your loss. Words cannot express what feelings you are going through. Just hang in there and with time, you will find some comfort. YOu can start a blog to keep letting your feelings coming out. I will keep you in my prayers. You need to stay strong for your little girl. As for the father of your boys, don't worry. You don't need a man like that in your life.
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