my story of pain

Welcome to Share, Paulette. It can be very difficult for men and women to get on the same page about grief, especially when you lose a baby early in a pregnancy. Men just aren't as attached as we are. It took over a year for my husband and I to have the kind of conversations I wanted to have about the twins we lost. We still see the loss differently and react very differently to situations regarding their deaths. One thing I do know is that although men grieve differently, they do, in fact, grieve in their own way.

If you are having trouble moving forward, it may help to talk with a counselor or with a support group to help you figure out how to deal day to day. I don't think we will ever let go of the children we lost, but we do have to live our lives despite the pain.

I hope that you can find some support here on Share. I have found blogging really helpful.

Wishing you hope and healing,
Shannon

Hi Paulette, welcome to Share. I am so sorry for your loss. Maybe your partner and you could try going to counseling to help with communicating, it's hard to convey feelings to each other in times of grief. I hope you are able to find some support from thos of us here on Share. When I started blogging it really helped, it might also help you. We are all always here for you.
Laura

Welcome to share. Im sorry for your loss. Men and women grieve so diffrently it make the journey so much harder. I agree with Laura have you tried counseling. Many churches will offer it for free, help open the communication up again. SHARE has been my rock since losing my daughter 5 years ago. I have found so much here on SHARE. I hope you find as much Love, comfort, and support!!!

Lots of love,
Samantha

Hello and welcome to Share. I am so sorry for you loss. I agree with Samantha, men and women grieve so very differently. While there isnt anything I cant talk about with my husband regarding the loss of our daughter, but depth in which I speak about it is nothing like I have shared here. Share is where I learned preemie 101 after the birth of my 23 weeker in 2005 and Share is where I have been allowed to grieve her on the highest level. I have never have to apologize or stifle how I feel here.

I hope you and your partner are able to find a way to kinda figure out what eachother need and dont need during this journey. The loss of a child is such a life altering event.

Hang in there!
Yolonda

Welcome to Share. I am so sorry for your loss. It definitely took a long time for my husband and I to have the conversations that I wished we could have had right after losing our son at 30 weeks. There were two other little ones to take care of which left us hardly any free time to grieve together as parents. I did see a therapist/counselor for four sessions just to make sure that my feelings/concerns for myself and family were "normal." She assured me they were and I have learned that we all grieve differently. When I couldn't get the words of comfort and support here at home, I went to Share. It's been wonderful and it's taken time. Communication is everything and I hope that you and hubby can get that opportunity to connect agai with each other and talk about your loss.

Thinking of you,

Lindsay