BABY IN NICU
mamakate - 05:06am Apr 26, 2007 ESTI gave birth to baby joey (joseph victor) on april 17,2007. He is currently in the NICU. Although he is very healthy and has no major medical concerns, this time has been very hard for me. I am home alone with my 2 1/2 year old all day and can only go to see joey in the evening. The days have been very long and draining on me emotionally. It is hard for me because sitting in the nicu for hours (sometimes just holding him while he sleeps) is boring even though I do love him and want to be with him. I am struggling to find peace with this situation. My daughter was also born prematurely and had to stay in the nicu for 3 weeks. I know it will get better, but this time of waiting is making me an emotional disaster.
Melissa M.
- May 2, 2007 6:52 am
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Having a baby in the NICU is a difficult situation to find peace. This traumatic experience is filled with chaos. It can be difficult to search for balance or normalcy.
Delivering a child into the NICU is a separate kind of grief. Though your baby is alive and well ... This was not what you were expecting. Likely, this is your first experience in the NICU. You had dreams of this precious child being born and going home. Storybook fantasties of being a mom to two children filled your dreams at night. This is the way you believed things would be .... Not spending your baby's first days in an intensive care unit.
Sometimes we have to sit back and accept that we are working towards a new normal. Our normal.
Take care of yourself. Make sure you are getting rest and eating healthy food. You are recovering too.
Warmly,
Melissa
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kjs1985
- May 8, 2007 5:06 am
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Been There
My daughter Isabel just came home from 8 weeks in the NICU last month. I also had a 2 and 3 year old at home. I just tried to get in to see Isabel for a couple hours each day, and sometimes it was a little boring for me too. The older kids seemed to need me more, they were more aware of me than Isabel. Give a call during the day to the NICU; it helps to feel a little more connected. It is a draining time, but you will get through it and soon it will be just a memory.
Hang in there!
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lilyrosedreamgirl
- May 11, 2007 9:46 pm
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I know how you feel
My daughter was in the nicu for almost 8 weeks and we have 4 boys at home and my hubby works until 6 or 7 pm sometimes even later and we always felt guilty because we were dead tired and could never go at decent hours the hospital social worker had the nerve to call and ask us if we needed bus tokens to see lily more often I went off on her we spent at least 4 hours everyday even if we had to stay till 1 or 2 am,This time is going to be stressful no matter what but just try to remember its only temporary and hang in there 
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