fibroid+bleeding+cerclage+PROM

sad me - 10:01pm Dec 21, 2011 EST

happy to find this site to share my grief and loss.i am the mother of a 10-year old boy.i got pregnant on and i have a fibroid on the outside of my uterus and the dr said we have to do cerclage to avoid preterm labor because of the fibroid (3.5*3.5 in dimension)and he did it on week 14 and i was bleeding heavily.the bleeding went away for few days after the cerclage and then red mucus discharge came back after few days.at week 17 my membrane ruptured and i was put on bed rest and everything was ok with the baby,but then i bleeded again and still the baby was ok until week 23 when the crp infection took place and i delivered the baby who in turn died. this was about a month and a half ago.can't forget what happened to me and feeling a lot of pain and sorrow. i'm praying all the time that i can get a brother or sister for my son.the dr said that i have to do an operation to remove the fibroid(now 5*5) and wait for at least 3 month to do an ivf again and i'm afraid that the ivf won't succeed cs i'm 38.please pray for me. can anyone help for what was the reason behind the membrane rupture.could it be the cerclage+bleeding?